No. I have 2 kids of my own, so we agreed that we wouldn't take the each other to our respective homes until we were comfortable within the relationship to introduce everyone to one another. He told me he had 2 kids...said that he didn't want to talk about his marriage (when I asked about what happened and how often he sees his kids...he said it's a sore subject and his wife hurt him. I just assumed it was a horrible divorce). We had been going out maybe once every two weeks at first and then started seeing each other more (2-3 times a week, usually meeting for dinner or a beer after work). Last weekend, I invited him to meet my kids before they left to spend some time with their dad. He stayed the night (because the kids weren't going to be there). So, that's why I didn't really know until recently.
How could you possibly be seeing a man for months and not realize he is married? Didn't you think it was strange that you never went to his home?
just move on with your life. there is no sense in dwelling over something you cannot change. what's done is done. move past it and focus on your and your (child-children?) You said you didn't know and thats not your fault. He was the twat that decieved you and his wife. This is not your fault.
Neither outcome will make me feel better.
It will make you feel better, but not her
if you really feel its the best thing to do, send an anonymous letter to her home with the pic of you two, your face blocked out.
I'm not wanting to "throw it in her face." I just feel like shit.
do not contact his wife.
she doesn't need your ass throwing in her face that you slept with her husband
just leave the two of them alone and move on with your life.