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I know why there are so many kids w/ IEPs
by Anonymous
March 26, 2013 at 8:49 AM

IEP = Individualized Education Plan -- A plan made for a child with a disability and/or disorder that affects their ability to succeed academically. It is designed specifically for that child to help them achieve goals with any modifications or accommodations. (Goals can be academic or simple life goals, such as learning English)

This is from my perspective as a speech-language pathologist, I work with kids who have:

  • Speech issues
  • Language issues (Improper grammar, English as a 2nd language)
  • Autism
  • Down Syndrome
  • Social issues (Social anxiety, speak out of turn, don't know how to respond, etc.)
  • Emotional/Mental (Depression, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, bullying, etc)
  • Can't understand sarcasm, figurative language
  • Can't draw conclusions
  • Cerebral Palsy
  • Muscular Dystrophy


Kids are kids, and they weren't meant to focus for hours on end. But here's a major problem:

After giving birth, the mom goes back to work after 6 weeks and child goes to daycare. By the time child is 5 years-old, they are ready for school. The issue is that they haven't had structure because they  have been playing in daycare. So now, when their kindergarten teacher is teaching the curriculum and teaching kids how to behave and do simple things like writing their name. So now, the teacher thinks Little Johnnie has ADHD because he's always getting up and doesn't pay attention, he rather play around and explore the classroom. PLEASE LET YOUR KIDS KNOW THAT SCHOOL IS NOT A JOKE! I don't want to kick these kids out of speech, but they don't actually need it. I'm not trying to be judgemental, but from what I see about 30/70 my kids have no business in my office because they don't actually have a problem.

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EDIT: I'm not saying that kids in daycare, working moms, or SAHMs are to blame for kids on IEPs. There are a gazillion reasons why a kid has an IEP. I should have written that better. What I am trying to say is that for a lot of kids who didn't have structure before starting school, they fall behind because they don't know how to behave in school. And some of those kids have ADD/ADHD... 

Since they fall behind, teachers and parents assume that something is wrong with them, when if fact they are just learning at a different pace. They may be a math wiz, but when it comes to reading they struggle. I've just noticed that a lot of my kids are just slower learners, and I don't actually think that they have an issue. My original post came out the wrong way. Please don't be offended. 


  • Anonymous 2
    by Anonymous 2
    March 26, 2013 at 8:52 AM
    Wow. There are plenty of daycares that teach children.
  • LyTe684
    by LyTe684
    March 26, 2013 at 8:53 AM

    My nieces Kindergarten teacher said the same thing.But hers was about kids that never went to school or daycare.

    ETA: I agree with anon though. A lot of daycares teach.

  • peanutsmommy1
    March 26, 2013 at 8:54 AM

    As someone who has worked professionally with child care providers for over a decade I am appalled that is your opinion and clearly you have no idea what a high quality child care provides a child in terms of school readiness.

  • Anonymous 3
    by Anonymous 3
    March 26, 2013 at 8:54 AM
    So you have proof that only children with working mothers have IEPs?
  • BEXi
    by BEXi
    March 26, 2013 at 8:54 AM

    Not all children with issues went to daycare. O.o

    In fact, I would see the opposite being more likely. Daycare has structure, usually a basic curriculum, and plenty of children to practice social skills with.

  • AVSpecWife4
    March 26, 2013 at 8:54 AM

    This is such BS. 

  • sugareemommee
    March 26, 2013 at 8:56 AM

    okay, and the ones who didn't go to daycare were playing at home..

    when we were all kids there wasn't nearly as much pressure on kindergarteners. that's where the issue lies.

  • kerriwarenda
    March 26, 2013 at 8:56 AM
    My children stay home with me and two of 3 or delayed in speech, my daughter is in preschool and my son is in early intervention. So, see it isn't just moms who back to work 6 weeks after they are born
  • Anonymous 4
    by Anonymous 4
    March 26, 2013 at 8:56 AM
    I'm a sahm. We do some learning through play. When he is ready for preschool I will be looking for one that is more structured. I'm actually touring private schools next week.
  • Anonymous 5
    by Anonymous 5
    March 26, 2013 at 8:57 AM

    My daycare centre only really allows the babies to "play around and not learn anything". all the other rooms are learning every day. The 2.5-3.5 room can tell you the abc and count to 10. The 2 -3 yo room can tell you colors, count to five, sing simple songs, and the toddlers (15m - 2y) can paint, scribble, slowly begin to share; and hell even some of the preschoolers (3.5 to 6yrs) can write their names; short sentences along with everything else previously mentioned. So not all daycare centres are "lazy" and not all problems are to do with daycare.

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