I tend to get a lot if judgement bc I have two kids with two different fathers. And I'm married to someone else. However, it's all in the details. My oldest son, me and his father were young, were never really together. We get along great, we spend holidays together and him and my husband are good friends. I consider him part of our family. My youngest son, me and his father were married for 4 years, it didn't work out. (Could have something to do with the little sister my son got while we were married).
Now I'm happily married to my best friend. And we don't plan on having kids together. He doesn't have any and considers my sons, his sons.
To me it doesn't matter how many fathers there are they can be good mothers or even bad mothers. Hell I know bad mothers and their kids all have the same father. I have 2 kids with 2 different dads, and I am a damn good mother :)
Excuse me I have 3 kids by 3 different dads. I am not a slut, a whore etc. Things just happened in my life sure as heck not the way I wanted to do things but its the way things happened none the less..I am so sick of people judging me when they dont know the whole story....
March 23, 2013 at 4:19 PM
I think it depends in how close together the kids are.
My mom had kids with 3 different men. Got pregnant young with her oldest. Meet my father and had me 2 years later. Then my sister 5 years after me. Then, she and my father divorced after a long marriage and she had a baby with her new husband 15 years after my sister.
I'm biased. All the women I know and yes I literally mean all, that have multiple fathers for their children is because the guys they reproduced with were pieces of shit to begin with. But ohhh they thought they could change them. Nope sweetie didn't happen now did it. Now I know that's not the case for everyone. I know some men do crazy 180's and turn into dirt bags and the other way around. But for the women I personally know in my life that was not the case. Not only that but they pick a poor "sperm donor" not once or twice but three or four times. I mean c'mon!
So yes I judge them because IMHO they already showed poor decision making abilities AND now we are entrusting them with another human being.
But again I'm hella biased and should probably just be ignored.