well his cheating was a total accident so yes, it did come as a surprise to both of us :)
*edit* to the cpeople that think I'm being serious, I was making a joke about the accidental cheating post from last year. The one who claimed her dh was really drunk and slept with a girl thinking it was his wife. She went as far as making a support group "Accidental Fornicators Anonymous"
I could always tell when my exh was up to something. I never physically caught him having sex with anyone but caught him in repeated emotional affairs. Emails myspace conversations dirty pics being sent back and forth. It was enough for me to want a divorce.