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Are fourth graders having sex? *Update* UPDATE#2 HUGE!!!
March 19, 2013 at 10:02 AM

 My son is in 4th grade.. Hes 10.

He came home from school yesterday and just has to tell me about the things this boy in his class told him. Im listening. This CHILD told my CHILD he watches sex online. That he seen a man put his penis in a girl butt, pee, and the pee came out her mouth o.O First, WTF. Second, thats impossibile. He then goes on to tell him other anal videos hes watches, oral and "regular". That its ok if a girl wont let you put it in her butt, you can use her mouth!!!

He told him how he goes to red tube (? never heard of it) and watches this. Says you can even tell girls what to do. He tells them to take their clothes off, and they do it! And, that when Jordan (my son) gets home, he should go right to his room, lock the door, and go check out redtube! WTF!!

He goes even firther to tell him he has had sex before. I dont buy it, but you NEVER KNOW. Maybe he is being molested, and is confused? And, how you can sneak and touch girls boobs. And that once, he touched a much older girls boob and she said she liked it!

 

My jaw? DOWN TO THE EFFING FLOOR. I am ever so grateful we have raised our child well and he came RIGHT to me, not the computer.

I called the school and the phone just rang. It always does that after 4:00, and Jordan doesnt get home until 4. So, I wrote a letter. For many reasons. One, if his parents are unaware, and I would assume and hope they are, they NEED to know what their child is doing online! And two, what if he has had sexual interaction? What if hes been abused and thinks its something else?

Waiting for the school to call. Im sure they will...

Ok, no they wont. Just happened to see my long letter, laying on the couch. He forgot it. Im calling now. Ill update!

 

**Just called. The secretary said I need to speak with the assitant principal and she is in a meeting. Took down my info and will have her call me back!

 

* Vp just called.. As soon as I started talking she gasped. Kept saying oh my.. oh my gosh.. She said she has heard some stuff but never anything liked this. She was pretty shocked. She said she would not speak to and embarrass jordan unless I wanted her to. I told her it was fine, I already prepared him and told him not be be shy- it was important. She said she was going to put his class on alert, and inform all the special area teachers and lunch ladies to keep ears out for the conversations amongst those students. When I told her the boys name she knew him right away. I dont know if thats a good or bad thing. She kept oh my gosh, I cant believe.. Then said she would be taking appropriate action, of course getting in contact with his parents, and that was all. End of convo.

 I know its not my business anymore, but I wish she could update me.

When jordan gets home I will ask him if he was called to the office. If so, Ill update again.

 

**UPDATE 2!!

The vp called! She said she just wanted to thank me for calling, and no shrugging this off as some boys will be boys thing. She talked to m__ and his answers shed some light on some disturbing things. She said that she didnt need to, and wont be, talking to jordan- the boys own answers were enough and the links and photos all real. She said he has been getting things from an ONLINE stranger and authorities are now involved. She then said thats all she is allowed to say, she and his parents, just wanted to truly thank me!!

 

im SUPER shocked. NEVER imagined this. Im soooo glad I called. So glad. That poor boy :(

She also told me to thank Jordan for coming to me right away, and to ask him to please not tell any of his classmates.

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  • LadyKDL
    by LadyKDL
    March 22, 2013 at 9:20 AM

    Kudos to you for getting involved. On this side of the screen I want to say that I would jump right in and do the same thing, and I would but i probably would not have the forsight to react so quickly. Thanks to you, this little boy will get the help he needs.

  • HLHSmommy
    March 23, 2013 at 3:07 PM

    Kudos to you! I am so glad the VP was willing to hear parental concerns. Hopefully this was all caught early enough to save that boy from life debilitating trauma.

  • jak3739
    by jak3739
    March 24, 2013 at 2:52 PM
    Wish I could say that I am surprised but after being a public school teacher not much surprises me. Parents, please monitor your children's Internet activity. You amy think they are too young or too naive or even too responisble to do anything like this but, it is so easy for it to happen. If you misspell youtube.com in any way, shape or form, it leads to porn sites. It is possibly that is what happened here (hence the name redtube). Children are such easy prey, they are willing to share information that they shouldn't and are more trusting of others than they often should be. I once had a group of 6th graders discussing Instant Messaging or another type of chat room, I wasn't completely sure. The one girl mentioned "chatting" with one of the other students in class. The other student said she wasn't online at that time. The first girl had no idea who she had been chatting with and neither did any of her friends. A very scary situation to say the least, and a tragedy waiting to happen.
  • amylynn98
    March 26, 2013 at 1:33 PM

    Congrats to you for establishing and maintaininig a relationship in which your son can come to you on such things. 

    It is seriously disturbing.  Parents need to be on the watch.  My sons are 10 and 12 - I have access to all email (their school required them to have their own account on google for google classroom), and they are never allowed to use the laptop unless they are in the same room as me.  My 12yo just got a cell phone (mixed feelings on that one), and I have all passwords, etc.  He has to provide me with his phone every night at bedtime and anytime I ask.  My cell carrier also allows me to double-check in case he deletes something to hide it.

    It's a scary world out there!

  • tifbrown
    March 26, 2013 at 1:41 PM

    Oh wow. Your last update made me gasp, the part about a stranger providing this. That poor confused boy. I totally applaud you. Way to go parenting. You must be doing an amazing job that he felt comfortable and knew this was an issue to come to you right away about. What's your secret? I'm genuinely curious as a mother with 2 little girls to raise. And, good for you for telling the school and not brushing it off. I'm glad the school took action and got involved. Bad situation, but the outcome seems to be pretty good.

  • JDmommyJD
    March 26, 2013 at 2:11 PM
    Honestly..i try to be their parent and friend at the same time. I know people say "don't be a friend, be a parent". But who do kids talk to most? I parent by setting rules and boundries, disciplining when necessary, teaching, loving, nurturing and providing for. But I'm a friend too. I sit and gossip and giggle, play with, tell secrets and talk about EVERYTHING and anything. It brings a whole new comfort level, and kids aren't afraid to open up. You can have rules and be fun too.

    Quoting tifbrown:

    Oh wow. Your last update made me gasp, the part about a stranger providing this. That poor confused boy. I totally applaud you. Way to go parenting. You must be doing an amazing job that he felt comfortable and knew this was an issue to come to you right away about. What's your secret? I'm genuinely curious as a mother with 2 little girls to raise. And, good for you for telling the school and not brushing it off. I'm glad the school took action and got involved. Bad situation, but the outcome seems to be pretty good.

  • tifbrown
    March 26, 2013 at 2:13 PM

    Sounds like you have achieved the perfect balance.

    Quoting JDmommyJD:

    Honestly..i try to be their parent and friend at the same time. I know people say "dint be a friend, be a patent". But who do kids talk to most? I parent by setting rules and boundries, disciplining when necessary, teaching, loving, nurturing and providing for. But I'm a friend too. I sit and gossip and giggle, play with, tell secrets and talk about EVERYTHING and anything. It brings a whole new comfort level, and kids aren't afraid to open up. You can have rules and be fun too.

    Quoting tifbrown:

    Oh wow. Your last update made me gasp, the part about a stranger providing this. That poor confused boy. I totally applaud you. Way to go parenting. You must be doing an amazing job that he felt comfortable and knew this was an issue to come to you right away about. What's your secret? I'm genuinely curious as a mother with 2 little girls to raise. And, good for you for telling the school and not brushing it off. I'm glad the school took action and got involved. Bad situation, but the outcome seems to be pretty good.


  • JDmommyJD
    March 26, 2013 at 2:15 PM
    Thanks:)

    Quoting tifbrown:

    Sounds like you have achieved the perfect balance.

    Quoting JDmommyJD:

    Honestly..i try to be their parent and friend at the same time. I know people say "dint be a friend, be a patent". But who do kids talk to most? I parent by setting rules and boundries, disciplining when necessary, teaching, loving, nurturing and providing for. But I'm a friend too. I sit and gossip and giggle, play with, tell secrets and talk about EVERYTHING and anything. It brings a whole new comfort level, and kids aren't afraid to open up. You can have rules and be fun too.



    Quoting tifbrown:

    Oh wow. Your last update made me gasp, the part about a stranger providing this. That poor confused boy. I totally applaud you. Way to go parenting. You must be doing an amazing job that he felt comfortable and knew this was an issue to come to you right away about. What's your secret? I'm genuinely curious as a mother with 2 little girls to raise. And, good for you for telling the school and not brushing it off. I'm glad the school took action and got involved. Bad situation, but the outcome seems to be pretty good.


  • angeles000223
    March 29, 2013 at 9:31 PM

    Hi, I have been busy with my 6 yr old (sick-kidneys-Nephrotic Syndrome). I have been thinking about you and your son and praying for both of you. I hope all is better. Have a great Easter. GOD BLESS YOU!

  • chrissy1123
    April 26, 2013 at 10:17 AM
    Thank you :)


    Quoting APChouston:

    Wow...just wow. Thank you for taking the time to call the school. This boy could be the victim of an online predator and maybe that predator can be caught. I am sorry for the loss of innocence of your child. This is just sick, sick, sick! :(

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