My son is in 4th grade.. Hes 10.
He came home from school yesterday and just has to tell me about the things this boy in his class told him. Im listening. This CHILD told my CHILD he watches sex online. That he seen a man put his penis in a girl butt, pee, and the pee came out her mouth o.O First, WTF. Second, thats impossibile. He then goes on to tell him other anal videos hes watches, oral and "regular". That its ok if a girl wont let you put it in her butt, you can use her mouth!!!
He told him how he goes to red tube (? never heard of it) and watches this. Says you can even tell girls what to do. He tells them to take their clothes off, and they do it! And, that when Jordan (my son) gets home, he should go right to his room, lock the door, and go check out redtube! WTF!!
He goes even firther to tell him he has had sex before. I dont buy it, but you NEVER KNOW. Maybe he is being molested, and is confused? And, how you can sneak and touch girls boobs. And that once, he touched a much older girls boob and she said she liked it!
My jaw? DOWN TO THE EFFING FLOOR. I am ever so grateful we have raised our child well and he came RIGHT to me, not the computer.
I called the school and the phone just rang. It always does that after 4:00, and Jordan doesnt get home until 4. So, I wrote a letter. For many reasons. One, if his parents are unaware, and I would assume and hope they are, they NEED to know what their child is doing online! And two, what if he has had sexual interaction? What if hes been abused and thinks its something else?
Waiting for the school to call. Im sure they will...
Ok, no they wont. Just happened to see my long letter, laying on the couch. He forgot it. Im calling now. Ill update!
**Just called. The secretary said I need to speak with the assitant principal and she is in a meeting. Took down my info and will have her call me back!
* Vp just called.. As soon as I started talking she gasped. Kept saying oh my.. oh my gosh.. She said she has heard some stuff but never anything liked this. She was pretty shocked. She said she would not speak to and embarrass jordan unless I wanted her to. I told her it was fine, I already prepared him and told him not be be shy- it was important. She said she was going to put his class on alert, and inform all the special area teachers and lunch ladies to keep ears out for the conversations amongst those students. When I told her the boys name she knew him right away. I dont know if thats a good or bad thing. She kept oh my gosh, I cant believe.. Then said she would be taking appropriate action, of course getting in contact with his parents, and that was all. End of convo.
I know its not my business anymore, but I wish she could update me.
When jordan gets home I will ask him if he was called to the office. If so, Ill update again.
The vp called! She said she just wanted to thank me for calling, and no shrugging this off as some boys will be boys thing. She talked to m__ and his answers shed some light on some disturbing things. She said that she didnt need to, and wont be, talking to jordan- the boys own answers were enough and the links and photos all real. She said he has been getting things from an ONLINE stranger and authorities are now involved. She then said thats all she is allowed to say, she and his parents, just wanted to truly thank me!!
im SUPER shocked. NEVER imagined this. Im soooo glad I called. So glad. That poor boy :(
She also told me to thank Jordan for coming to me right away, and to ask him to please not tell any of his classmates.
haha i know redtube ;) ok so thats the only haha in this post, wtf??? I would be calling cps if you know the name of the child! Something is very wrong here! maybe the "pee coming out her mouth" was the guy came in her mouth? I think the boy is probably lying about having had sex but who knows, my daughter is 10 and in 5th grade and ugh I hope they don't talk about these things!!! I hope I have done a good enough job she would come to me if some one said stuff like this ya know? we have talked about that she should come to me or another adult if she knows one of her friends is being hurt at home or something but honestly with her being 10 and in 5th grade i never thought to have convos like this!! I mean we have had the period talk and stuff but damn!!!
Well considering it probably isn't "his" computer. I don't wish a computer virus on anyone. Many kids at that age have found porn. it doesn't surprise me in the least. What I have to wonder is where are the parents while he is online? Sounds like they have just cut him loose on the interwebz or are trying to rely on security features (which many kids know how to get around) to keep him out of the stuff.
A virus? That would be good for his computer. Thats the last thing I think anyone should be concerned about.
Oh redtube...kid is gonna get virused.
Oh I did..No one likes to get another in trouble and be the snitch, but he knew that boy was doing things he shouldnt, and was pretty grossed out (thankfully) himself.
you have a good boy, like you said, he came to you first instead of the computer. I give him props for that, Make sure you assure him he did the right thing! :)
by Anonymous 7March 19, 2013 at 10:30 AMI had a friend like that in 3rd or 4th grade. I think the school should be aware. It turns out she was seen her mom having sex with her "asleep" iat the foot of the bed. (diffrerent men) She had her first baby at 13 quit school at sixteen. She got into that kind of stuff so young because she was being neglected. Hopefully this is just a case of parents not watching the internet usage. :(
by Luna091306March 19, 2013 at 10:30 AM
How old are fourth graders? 9-10? I guess it's possible but sickening!
wow. i cant even imagine my kids being that young and seeing something like that.
yes, redtube is a real website, but i cant imagine a 4th grader being left on the computer long enough to find something like that! does the kid have an older sibling who maybe thought it was "funny" to show it to him or something?
i remember when i was in third grade or so my dad left a movie playing on the tv while he got up to get something to drink. i happened to walk in just in time to see a girl sitting in just underwear and she dipped her nipple into some wine or something and the guy licked it off. NO, it was not a porno or anything. (i think the movie was called red rising sun? something like that) it was just an R rated movie. Well, being a kid i was very eager to tell someone what i saw! so i told a friend a week or 2 later, she told her mom, and her mom told me that i couldnt play with me anymore. I was crushed. I remember trying to talk to her about it on the playground and her practically yelling in my face, "you saw a movie with naked people in it and my mom thinks that is gross!" it broke my heart, because it isnt like i TRIED to see it. I just happened to walk in when it was on the tv.
i definitely think that an intervention with these parents are in order. they need to know what is going on so that they can get some parental filters on the computer and be able to explain what is appropriate and what isnt with their child.
by MBRsmommyMarch 19, 2013 at 10:30 AM
One thing I am wondering though is where the hell was a teacher while this long conversation was going on???