My son is in 4th grade.. Hes 10.
He came home from school yesterday and just has to tell me about the things this boy in his class told him. Im listening. This CHILD told my CHILD he watches sex online. That he seen a man put his penis in a girl butt, pee, and the pee came out her mouth o.O First, WTF. Second, thats impossibile. He then goes on to tell him other anal videos hes watches, oral and "regular". That its ok if a girl wont let you put it in her butt, you can use her mouth!!!
He told him how he goes to red tube (? never heard of it) and watches this. Says you can even tell girls what to do. He tells them to take their clothes off, and they do it! And, that when Jordan (my son) gets home, he should go right to his room, lock the door, and go check out redtube! WTF!!
He goes even firther to tell him he has had sex before. I dont buy it, but you NEVER KNOW. Maybe he is being molested, and is confused? And, how you can sneak and touch girls boobs. And that once, he touched a much older girls boob and she said she liked it!
My jaw? DOWN TO THE EFFING FLOOR. I am ever so grateful we have raised our child well and he came RIGHT to me, not the computer.
I called the school and the phone just rang. It always does that after 4:00, and Jordan doesnt get home until 4. So, I wrote a letter. For many reasons. One, if his parents are unaware, and I would assume and hope they are, they NEED to know what their child is doing online! And two, what if he has had sexual interaction? What if hes been abused and thinks its something else?
Waiting for the school to call. Im sure they will...
Ok, no they wont. Just happened to see my long letter, laying on the couch. He forgot it. Im calling now. Ill update!
**Just called. The secretary said I need to speak with the assitant principal and she is in a meeting. Took down my info and will have her call me back!
* Vp just called.. As soon as I started talking she gasped. Kept saying oh my.. oh my gosh.. She said she has heard some stuff but never anything liked this. She was pretty shocked. She said she would not speak to and embarrass jordan unless I wanted her to. I told her it was fine, I already prepared him and told him not be be shy- it was important. She said she was going to put his class on alert, and inform all the special area teachers and lunch ladies to keep ears out for the conversations amongst those students. When I told her the boys name she knew him right away. I dont know if thats a good or bad thing. She kept oh my gosh, I cant believe.. Then said she would be taking appropriate action, of course getting in contact with his parents, and that was all. End of convo.
I know its not my business anymore, but I wish she could update me.
When jordan gets home I will ask him if he was called to the office. If so, Ill update again.
The vp called! She said she just wanted to thank me for calling, and no shrugging this off as some boys will be boys thing. She talked to m__ and his answers shed some light on some disturbing things. She said that she didnt need to, and wont be, talking to jordan- the boys own answers were enough and the links and photos all real. She said he has been getting things from an ONLINE stranger and authorities are now involved. She then said thats all she is allowed to say, she and his parents, just wanted to truly thank me!!
im SUPER shocked. NEVER imagined this. Im soooo glad I called. So glad. That poor boy :(
She also told me to thank Jordan for coming to me right away, and to ask him to please not tell any of his classmates.
Homeschooling is looking better and better. I detest how someone else's lack of parenting can affect MY kids. I wouldn't want my kids to hear about that and I wouldn't be above going to the kid's parents and saying "Thanks a lot. Your lack of parenting resulted in MY children learning about porn and anal sex. You suck."
That is crazy!!! Although I have known this to happen. My ex boyfriends little brother and little cousin were about 9 or 10 when the neighbors boys were trying to show them porn on the computer the neighbor boys were 10 and 12. Also my ex husband told me that the first time he watched porn was when he was about 10 and him and another girl (neighbor) would act out what was going on t.v. Tthey were latchkey kids and he would come over to her house after school and they would get her dads videos out from under the bed!!!
It is my worst fear and I am so glad your son was so responsible. I hope that my boys will be come to me like that if anything happens in their future like this. I hope the school calls you soon!
by Anonymous 4March 19, 2013 at 10:27 AM
This a prime example of why kids should NOT be on the computer unsupervised. Ever. Computers should be in an area where it can be monitored at all times. This kid is probably unsupervised way too much in the first place. Poor little boy :(
by Anonymous 5March 19, 2013 at 10:27 AM
Wow... Just wow.. I'm speechless.
March 19, 2013 at 10:27 AMI know two people that lost their virginity at ten yrs old. So i don't doubt that there are more. I personally dont allow my child to use the computer unsupervised and i have parental blocks on it if i step away. That mom should as well.
by Anonymous 6March 19, 2013 at 10:28 AMWow!
by CanInTexMarch 19, 2013 at 10:28 AMThat's my dd too, still plays Barbies, monster high dolls, house and builds snow forts with the neighbourhood kids. Makes you wonder where the parents are. Dd doesn't do anything without asking and without me double checking supervision. So so sad.
Thankfully, my son spends his days running around the neighborhood with other kids shooting nerf guns. Holding on to all innocence.
This makes me sick :( my dd is also 10. As far as I know, no 4th graders here are having sex. She does have a "friend" (they don't hang out but at 10, everyone calls everyone friends) that says she has two boyfriends and is pregnant but doesn't know who the dad is. This same girl has a pregnant 15 y/o sister. Dd doesn't play with this girl and I've talked to her about it, she knows what the girl is saying is wrong. The school is aware.
I think you're doing the right thing.
My nephew and his friend tried ordering porno in 5th grade. To the extent that they out the wrong code in enough to lock down the entire cable box. My SIL flipped out, I doubt he's done it again, at his house anyways.