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I can't do it without a nanny
by Anonymous
March 6, 2013 at 10:44 PM

I have a very active 19 m old and I'm a single working mom.i am used to taking him to daycare from 7.45 to 3.30, mond to frid and a nanny comes home on tue and Thursday from 4 to 8 and sund from 2 to 6 m.

Last sund she told me that she could not come on tues anymore and I thought I was able to hande it all without her help.

i can't .

i m sick this week so it may not be the best time to evaluate this but I think I need help 3 times a week if I want a clean home, homemade meals, quality time, time at home to work and not get too stressed.

how do women do it without help?

EDIT

since people don't read responses, I am going to clarify certain things:

1) I should have used the word "maid" or helper instead of nanny. She cleans, does laundry, folds clothes, crosses the street to pick up a few groceries, organizes toys, recharges batteries, change batteries and yes, she would not  ignore my child if he wants to play but she is always around while I am home. she may change a diaper here and there or get sippy cups ready or clean high chair or help feeding him fruit after we ate dinner but she is not a "nanny" working alone

2) I took my son's first 14 months off to be with him.

3) I don't need to hear about moms that are going to school as well as unlike them, I planned on the baby after I had earned my MA and I was almost doone with my PhD

4)I don't judge SAHMs, you don't judge working moms

5) I leave the office to be home with my son but I still have to do work from home.

6) like most if you, I did have to suck it up and be a mom (whatever it means for everyone).for me, it means that I dont get my hair done twice a week, I dont get manicures and pedicures, I dont get a massage, I dont work out as much as I jused to, I dont travel as much as i used to, i dont have a different $100 bottle of perfume every month, I dont buy expensive make up, I don't hang out wiuth the same friends and etc etc...it is all about my son and i am happy but go and judge your own self

Replies

  • notjstanothrmom
    March 6, 2013 at 11:09 PM
    Pathetic.
  • dbush0584
    March 6, 2013 at 11:09 PM
    I'm not sure what you mean....maybe that was supposed to be an insult? REAL adults take care of their children and don't need someone else to do our job. SO said you're a fucking idiot. PARENTING....that's how we do it.

    Quoting Anonymous:


    So you are just a sucker ?


    Quoting dbush0584:

    We grab a straw and suck it up......




  • crashblossom
    March 6, 2013 at 11:09 PM
    Speaking as a nanny (I've been one nearly full time since I was 15), it's very depressing raising other people's children. When exactly do you see your child? During the daycare drop off?
  • Abby.N.Amys.Mom
    March 6, 2013 at 11:10 PM

    Fail.  Troll fail.

    Fail.

    Big fat fail.

    Quoting Anonymous:


    When I get hme, I still have work from the office that I need to d so I am far from lazy.i have to keep up with work to afford the clothes he has, the gym classes he takes, the parks and entertainment he goes to and his French classes

    Quoting Anonymous:

    Say what? No one can be this lazy. Get off of your ass!




  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 11:10 PM


    I'm sorry but I disagree. All those activities are quality are done together and I love doing them with him. It is not Ike he gets dropped off at activities and I pick him up. We do them together and they connect us with m friends as well

    Quoting boshs1andonly:

    He's 19 months, he doesn't NEED all that especially if its getting in the way of you being a mom. Work to cover the essentials and some savings then spend the rest of the time being a mom to you kid.

    Quoting Anonymous:


    When I get hme, I still have work from the office that I need to d so I am far from lazy.i have to keep up with work to afford the clothes he has, the gym classes he takes, the parks and entertainment he goes to and his French classes


    Quoting Anonymous:

    Say what? No one can be this lazy. Get off of your ass!






  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    March 6, 2013 at 11:11 PM
    I work and go to school. I have four children and prefer to raise them myself.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 11:12 PM

    It is a mommy and me class so it is no different from any mommy and me class parents do with their kids...call it French, yoga or whatever

    Quoting ChevronOwls:

    As much as your 1 year old loves his French classes, I'm sure he would go without if that meant spending more time with his actual mother.

    Quoting Anonymous:


    When I get hme, I still have work from the office that I need to d so I am far from lazy.i have to keep up with work to afford the clothes he has, the gym classes he takes, the parks and entertainment he goes to and his French classes

    Quoting Anonymous:

    Say what? No one can be this lazy. Get off of your ass!







  • dbush0584
    March 6, 2013 at 11:13 PM
    Actually....if you want help you could hire a maid and actually be a patent to your child. who watches your kid on Saturday because it's OBVIOUSLY not you?
  • livingforthem83
    March 6, 2013 at 11:13 PM
    I can't do it without a nanny either, and I don't have one. Real soon though, real soon.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 11:13 PM


    A nanny would raise him if she were alone with the child but we are together having dinner or cleaning or hanging out. He is not left alone with her

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I work and go to school. I have four children and prefer to raise them myself.



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