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I can't do it without a nanny
by Anonymous
March 6, 2013 at 10:44 PM

I have a very active 19 m old and I'm a single working mom.i am used to taking him to daycare from 7.45 to 3.30, mond to frid and a nanny comes home on tue and Thursday from 4 to 8 and sund from 2 to 6 m.

Last sund she told me that she could not come on tues anymore and I thought I was able to hande it all without her help.

i can't .

i m sick this week so it may not be the best time to evaluate this but I think I need help 3 times a week if I want a clean home, homemade meals, quality time, time at home to work and not get too stressed.

how do women do it without help?

EDIT

since people don't read responses, I am going to clarify certain things:

1) I should have used the word "maid" or helper instead of nanny. She cleans, does laundry, folds clothes, crosses the street to pick up a few groceries, organizes toys, recharges batteries, change batteries and yes, she would not  ignore my child if he wants to play but she is always around while I am home. she may change a diaper here and there or get sippy cups ready or clean high chair or help feeding him fruit after we ate dinner but she is not a "nanny" working alone

2) I took my son's first 14 months off to be with him.

3) I don't need to hear about moms that are going to school as well as unlike them, I planned on the baby after I had earned my MA and I was almost doone with my PhD

4)I don't judge SAHMs, you don't judge working moms

5) I leave the office to be home with my son but I still have to do work from home.

6) like most if you, I did have to suck it up and be a mom (whatever it means for everyone).for me, it means that I dont get my hair done twice a week, I dont get manicures and pedicures, I dont get a massage, I dont work out as much as I jused to, I dont travel as much as i used to, i dont have a different $100 bottle of perfume every month, I dont buy expensive make up, I don't hang out wiuth the same friends and etc etc...it is all about my son and i am happy but go and judge your own self

Replies

  • spunky946
    March 6, 2013 at 10:58 PM

    Omg, wtf?  How can he be that hard?

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    March 6, 2013 at 10:59 PM

    Say what? No one can be this lazy. Get off of your ass!

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 11:00 PM


    He is awake and interacting with me from 6 am to 7 45 that he gets dropped off at daycare.then I pick him up at 3.30 and we g t play dates, gym classes, library, park etc. the nanny used to come n tue and thur only and we were both home with him so he had the two of us. I'd do laundry and cook and freeze meals while she was here.

    Sundays I have a lot of things to get ready for work and my son is up as usual frm 6 am. So those 4 ours the nanny works are hours I am at home working on my computer and again, cooking or doing laundry. So yes, my son spends 30 hours in daycare per week and 12 that he sees his mom and nanny together

    Quoting Anonymous:

    So between daycare & a nanny when are you being a parent?

    You can't do it bc you aren't a parent; it is being done for you!



  • dbush0584
    March 6, 2013 at 11:02 PM
    We grab a straw and suck it up......
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 11:02 PM


    When I get hme, I still have work from the office that I need to d so I am far from lazy.i have to keep up with work to afford the clothes he has, the gym classes he takes, the parks and entertainment he goes to and his French classes

    Quoting Anonymous:

    Say what? No one can be this lazy. Get off of your ass!



  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 11:03 PM


    So you are just a sucker ?

    Quoting dbush0584:

    We grab a straw and suck it up......



  • sucker4myloves
    March 6, 2013 at 11:03 PM

    omg epic


    Quoting Anonymous:




  • Dzyre1115
    March 6, 2013 at 11:05 PM

     You have one very small child and can't handle it without help?  Really?  You're going to have to get a grip, they get older and much more demanding!

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    March 6, 2013 at 11:05 PM

     Well I don't know what to tell you, most people do it w/o help.

    My kids have been helping me in the kitchen since they were 2. When they weren't helping they were playing (they aren't close in age).

    IDK it really isn't that hard.


    Quoting Anonymous:

     

    He is awake and interacting with me from 6 am to 7 45 that he gets dropped off at daycare.then I pick him up at 3.30 and we g t play dates, gym classes, library, park etc. the nanny used to come n tue and thur only and we were both home with him so he had the two of us. I'd do laundry and cook and freeze meals while she was here.

    Sundays I have a lot of things to get ready for work and my son is up as usual frm 6 am. So those 4 ours the nanny works are hours I am at home working on my computer and again, cooking or doing laundry. So yes, my son spends 30 hours in daycare per week and 12 that he sees his mom and nanny together

    Quoting Anonymous:

    So between daycare & a nanny when are you being a parent?

    You can't do it bc you aren't a parent; it is being done for you!

     

     


     

  • boshs1andonly
    March 6, 2013 at 11:06 PM
    He's 19 months, he doesn't NEED all that especially if its getting in the way of you being a mom. Work to cover the essentials and some savings then spend the rest of the time being a mom to you kid.

    Quoting Anonymous:


    When I get hme, I still have work from the office that I need to d so I am far from lazy.i have to keep up with work to afford the clothes he has, the gym classes he takes, the parks and entertainment he goes to and his French classes


    Quoting Anonymous:

    Say what? No one can be this lazy. Get off of your ass!




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