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Is it possible to change your kid's bad behavior in just 5 days?
March 6, 2013 at 10:29 AM

What do you think - is this realistic?

Is it possible to change your kid's bad behavior in just 5 days?
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  1. 23% - No way.
  2. 40% - Maybe, with divine intervention.
  3. 36% - Definitely.

Replies

  • New.OrleansLady
    March 6, 2013 at 11:01 AM

    If you are VERY consistent you can probably see a change. It won't be total different child, but you should see some sort of change 

  • LovelyMommy24
    March 6, 2013 at 11:03 AM
    It depends on if there are any underlying issues. If the child is only throwing tantrums, was spoiled and used to getting his/her way - I think yes. Once you put down the rules and follow through it doesn't take long for the child to figure it out.
  • daughteroftruth
    March 6, 2013 at 11:07 AM

     It depends on the child, age, and what the issue is.  Not all children have the same temperament, so while one child is easier to work with, others may have a more defiant will and it may take a while.  The age can play a roll as well, it can be easier to change different behaviors at different ages.  The behavior itself plays a drastic roll as well.. is it a fresh new behavior that can be resolved and redirected quickly, or is it a habit that has been left unchecked for years? 

    My dd age 5 has a disorder where she pulls her own hair, to modify this behavior takes constant vigilance and will take a very long time for her to learn to control on her own.  I don't expect it to be a quick resolution. While my youngest has recently started to screech when he doesn't get his way, this behavior may not take long to resolve as it is new and we are jumping right on it.  Now, if it was one of his older brothers, the behavior would have already been resolved as they have a less persistent will then our youngest.

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    March 6, 2013 at 11:09 AM
    I said maybe because it truly depends how committed you are and how your child reacts to change.
  • stykir
    by stykir
    March 6, 2013 at 11:10 AM

    maybe if there's a strict plan in place and then you are very diligent at sticking to it? do you have a plan already? if so, share. we have some attitudes around here lately too! lol

  • notjstasocermom
    March 6, 2013 at 11:28 AM

    nope.

  • Polkadotted
    March 6, 2013 at 11:29 AM


    I think I read somewhere that it takes 21 days to make a habit, but you could get a good start in 5 days.

  • ksueditz
    March 6, 2013 at 11:46 AM
    If you don't mind me asking. What are you doing to modify the hair pulling? My bff's son, has anxiety and he pulls his until he has bald "patches."


    Quoting daughteroftruth:

     It depends on the child, age, and what the issue is.  Not all children have the same temperament, so while one child is easier to work with, others may have a more defiant will and it may take a while.  The age can play a roll as well, it can be easier to change different behaviors at different ages.  The behavior itself plays a drastic roll as well.. is it a fresh new behavior that can be resolved and redirected quickly, or is it a habit that has been left unchecked for years? 


    My dd age 5 has a disorder where she pulls her own hair, to modify this behavior takes constant vigilance and will take a very long time for her to learn to control on her own.  I don't expect it to be a quick resolution. While my youngest has recently started to screech when he doesn't get his way, this behavior may not take long to resolve as it is new and we are jumping right on it.  Now, if it was one of his older brothers, the behavior would have already been resolved as they have a less persistent will then our youngest.


  • daughteroftruth
    March 6, 2013 at 12:00 PM

     Biggest thing has been looking for triggers.  DD pulls when she is in pain, really tiered, or super board.  So if she is sick i keep a very close eye on her, if she starts to pull I find something for her to do with her hands. If she is tiered, i will sit with her and hold her hands and read to her till she falls asleep.  If she is just board, then i find something for her to keep her hands busy.  Keeping her hands busy has been the biggest way to avoid it.  IF your friend can keep a log of when he starts pulling and what is going on when it happens, then knowing his triggers will help a lot.. if dd is sick, i know we are going to have to keep a close eye and keep her busy. 

    Quoting ksueditz:

    If you don't mind me asking. What are you doing to modify the hair pulling? My bff's son, has anxiety and he pulls his until he has bald "patches."


    Quoting daughteroftruth:

     It depends on the child, age, and what the issue is.  Not all children have the same temperament, so while one child is easier to work with, others may have a more defiant will and it may take a while.  The age can play a roll as well, it can be easier to change different behaviors at different ages.  The behavior itself plays a drastic roll as well.. is it a fresh new behavior that can be resolved and redirected quickly, or is it a habit that has been left unchecked for years? 


    My dd age 5 has a disorder where she pulls her own hair, to modify this behavior takes constant vigilance and will take a very long time for her to learn to control on her own.  I don't expect it to be a quick resolution. While my youngest has recently started to screech when he doesn't get his way, this behavior may not take long to resolve as it is new and we are jumping right on it.  Now, if it was one of his older brothers, the behavior would have already been resolved as they have a less persistent will then our youngest.


     

  • cristina1122
    March 6, 2013 at 12:04 PM
    That would be trichotillomania, and good luck. I've had it my whole life and as much as my mom tried to "control" it, I just pulled more. I've gotten so good at hiding it so didn't Know for the first year we were together. Also no medication I've ever taken has helped. Not even a little.



    Quoting daughteroftruth:

     It depends on the child, age, and what the issue is.  Not all children have the same temperament, so while one child is easier to work with, others may have a more defiant will and it may take a while.  The age can play a roll as well, it can be easier to change different behaviors at different ages.  The behavior itself plays a drastic roll as well.. is it a fresh new behavior that can be resolved and redirected quickly, or is it a habit that has been left unchecked for years? 


    My dd age 5 has a disorder where she pulls her own hair, to modify this behavior takes constant vigilance and will take a very long time for her to learn to control on her own.  I don't expect it to be a quick resolution. While my youngest has recently started to screech when he doesn't get his way, this behavior may not take long to resolve as it is new and we are jumping right on it.  Now, if it was one of his older brothers, the behavior would have already been resolved as they have a less persistent will then our youngest.


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