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My DH got another woman pregnant UPDATE
by Anonymous
March 6, 2013 at 12:31 AM

Since woman on here are talking about their experiences of being the OW I will share mine of the other side, the wife.

A few years ago, me and DH went through a rough patch and he slept with someone who got pregnant by him. He went out with his friends got piss ass drunk and slept with her. The next day he came home and told me about it and begged my forgiveness. We worked it out since I realized that it took a lot of character for him to come tell me when really, I would not have known other wise (this was before he knew she was pregnant, obviously since it was the next day). A month later she came and told him and told me that she was going to get him to leave me and our kids to be with her. I knew that wasn't going to happend. I stood by his side and told him that I would accept this child as my own.

The day the child was born, we went to file for custody of her. The woman works as a waitress and didn't make a lot of money, still doesn't. DH makes well over 100k a year. She did all she could to keep the baby away from me, including tried to say I couldn't come to the hosptial with DH until DH told her if I didn't, he wasn't going to pay her copayments for the hosptial and medical expenses (in court, they would have only ordered him to pay half but she couldn't afford to pay her half).

When the baby was 2 months old, we were in court and DH was awarded 50/50 time sharing. Actually it ends up being more because since I am a stay at home mom to our children and I was willing to watch this one too, the judge said she could either pay for daycare on her own, which she can't afford and doesn't have anyone to watch her for free or drop her off and me or DH would care for her (usually me). DH pays almost no child support ($430 a month for a man who makes close to $10,000 a month, put it to you this way, if he had standard visitation of every other weekend, he would be paying close to $1900 a month) because we have her so much and we are responsible for all medical expenses and she is on DH's insurance. I get more time with the child then the actual mom, she calls me mommy (no one taught her that, she started it on her own).

She is now 2 and as sweet as she can be and looks just like her dad. I am the one who takes her to the doctors, I am the one with her most days and I am the one who she usually cries for when she is upset. Sadly, I think her mom was mostly interested in her when she thought she would land her a good, relatively well off man.

Of course I never thought my life would turn out like this but you know what, I am really happy, I have my wonderful children, a husband I love and I have an extra child. The woman who thought she was going to break up my family has her child less then half the time and gets to watch me have the great life she wanted. Too bad

Moral of the story, don't fuck a married man, if he is really a good man and he has a good wife, chances are she will forgive him and you will be left out in the cold.

I am getting a lot of the same responses so I will address them here to save time:

No, I didn't take her child from her, the judge saw fit to give DH, her father 50/50 custody.

No, I do not hold any ill will against her, do I wish she wasn't around and SDD was my kid biologically, of course but that isn't the case and I don't blame her. She didn't owe me any loyalty so while I think it was trashy to sleep with a married man and tell his wife you are going to get him to leave her, I don't hold any ill will towards her anymore.

Yes, my DH cheated on me, that was horrible. But he came to me and told me right away, when he thought there was no way I would ever find out, he still came clean. That may not mean a lot to some but a lesser man would have never said anything.

Yes, a perfect DH would have never cheated but no one is perfect, we all need forgiveness sometimes.

I am not a door mat, I am a woman who was not willing to throw away a good marriage (not perfect of course but good) to a good man and father of my children over one mistake that he is sorry for.

Yes, I do treat the child the same as my own

No, I do not talk badly about her mom in front of her (actually rarely at all)

My DH has no contact with her unless we see her somewhere. Usually I do pick up and drop offs and communication is through me. That was at his request and I don't think she is really keen to talk to him either (she feels he screwed her over by not leaving me for her over one night).


  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 12:32 AM


  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 12:32 AM


  • Elle.tea.22
    March 6, 2013 at 12:34 AM

    I've seen similar things happen more often than one would expect

  • Anonymous 2
    by Anonymous 2
    March 6, 2013 at 12:34 AM
    Calling your bluff
  • Iamstacey
    March 6, 2013 at 12:34 AM
    Well now, that was an I retesting turn of events. I'm glad tge baby has a family who loves her.
  • shortycmlb
    March 6, 2013 at 12:35 AM

    Well I'm glad it all worked out. A little sad knowing the birth mother would have had more options had she had more money but hey, that's life and not using birth control was a choice both of them made.....her knowing she was unable to support a child she should have been more careful.

  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
    March 6, 2013 at 12:35 AM

    That's up to you then believe or not

    Quoting Anonymous:

    Calling your bluff

  • TaralynnStewart
    March 6, 2013 at 12:35 AM
    Better woman then I am. Good for you. It seems to be working out nicely.

    I assume they did a DNA test?
  • Anonymous 3
    by Anonymous 3
    March 6, 2013 at 12:35 AM

    You are better than me. I couldn't do it.

  • Dzyre1115
    March 6, 2013 at 12:36 AM

     What a twisted sick story.......anyway if my husband got another woman pregnant and he couldn't sign away the child, then I would have left, I don't like children enough to tolerate that kind of baggage.  Which is why I purposely chose a man with no kids when I married.

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