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Is he ALLOWED
by Anonymous
February 21, 2013 at 10:59 AM

Seriously ladies you want to know if you should ALLOW your DH/SO to do something.  Do you like asking for permission to do things you want? I guess because there is no jealous bone in my body that I could care less what my DH does.  He goes out with his friends every Saturday night.  He goes out for beers after work and doesn't tell me all the time.  If he is not home for dinner I just pop a plate in the fridge for him.  I don't feel the need to call or text him if he is late coming home and I don't ask him where he has been.  But he usually tells me once he gets home.  I trust him 100% if I didn't I wouldn't be with him.  It just makes me laugh that many of actually expect your DH/SO to ask permission.  Its a relationship between two adults.  They are not your children! If I were as controlling as that he would have left awhile back.  And if he were that controlling I would have left too!

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  • Pnukey
    by Pnukey
    February 21, 2013 at 11:01 AM

    DH doesn't have to ask permission to go out, but he does. I do require that he tells me where he goes, but I'm usually ok with him going out. I don't ask permission, but I do check to see if we already have plans that I don't know about. People are going to do what works best for them. Controlling to one person isn't controlling to another person.

  • AnnieMcD
    February 21, 2013 at 11:02 AM
    Yeah, Husband and I don't ask each other permission for shit. We're not one another's parents.
  • brettsmomma
    February 21, 2013 at 11:03 AM

    All I ask for is a courtesy call to let me know what time he plans on being home. I need a man for my life long partner. I already have a child to care for.

  • theosgirl45
    February 21, 2013 at 11:03 AM

    I don't expect him to ask permission but I do expect him to let me know what he is doing and where he will be. I do the same for him.

  • sjenkins8208
    February 21, 2013 at 11:04 AM
    We don't "allow" each other to do anything. We do RESPECT each other enough to call and say we won't be home though.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    February 21, 2013 at 11:05 AM
    My hubby doesn't need to ask for permission to do anything. I'm not his keeper. He usually texts me if he is going to be late, which I really appreciate, but it's not going to be a huge deal if be doesn't. I trust DH, and I know he can make responsible choices. He is an adult and he knows how to act like one. If he does go anywhere, he always tells me where, but I don't "make" him.

    Idk, I want to be his wife, nothing else.
  • Ollie123
    February 21, 2013 at 11:06 AM

    Agreed!

  • KTU
    by KTU
    Kim
    February 21, 2013 at 11:06 AM

    We don't ask permission from each other, but we do extend each other the courtesy of letting the other know where we are so that they don't worry.

  • .oOMellyOo.
    February 21, 2013 at 11:06 AM

    Oh goodie another judgemental post on CM.... how original.

    DH respects me so he calls ahead to let me know his plans, it doesn't mean he's "not allowed" or "asking permission". It has nothing to do with trust, it has everything to do with respect. Besides, he would rather be home with his family rather than at some dingy bar paying for overpriced beer :)

  • sarah824
    February 21, 2013 at 11:06 AM

    I don't expect DH to ask permission, nor do I have to ask permission, but we do communicate where we are and when we'll be home as a comon courtesy to each other. It is more of a respect thing with us though.

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