Seriously ladies you want to know if you should ALLOW your DH/SO to do something. Do you like asking for permission to do things you want? I guess because there is no jealous bone in my body that I could care less what my DH does. He goes out with his friends every Saturday night. He goes out for beers after work and doesn't tell me all the time. If he is not home for dinner I just pop a plate in the fridge for him. I don't feel the need to call or text him if he is late coming home and I don't ask him where he has been. But he usually tells me once he gets home. I trust him 100% if I didn't I wouldn't be with him. It just makes me laugh that many of actually expect your DH/SO to ask permission. Its a relationship between two adults. They are not your children! If I were as controlling as that he would have left awhile back. And if he were that controlling I would have left too!
DH doesn't have to ask permission to go out, but he does. I do require that he tells me where he goes, but I'm usually ok with him going out. I don't ask permission, but I do check to see if we already have plans that I don't know about. People are going to do what works best for them. Controlling to one person isn't controlling to another person.
We don't "allow" each other to do anything. We do RESPECT each other enough to call and say we won't be home though.
February 21, 2013 at 11:05 AM
My hubby doesn't need to ask for permission to do anything. I'm not his keeper. He usually texts me if he is going to be late, which I really appreciate, but it's not going to be a huge deal if be doesn't. I trust DH, and I know he can make responsible choices. He is an adult and he knows how to act like one. If he does go anywhere, he always tells me where, but I don't "make" him.
Oh goodie another judgemental post on CM.... how original.
DH respects me so he calls ahead to let me know his plans, it doesn't mean he's "not allowed" or "asking permission". It has nothing to do with trust, it has everything to do with respect. Besides, he would rather be home with his family rather than at some dingy bar paying for overpriced beer :)
I don't expect DH to ask permission, nor do I have to ask permission, but we do communicate where we are and when we'll be home as a comon courtesy to each other. It is more of a respect thing with us though.