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Section8 and hud housing
by Anonymous
February 20, 2013 at 8:30 PM

We are trying to get section 8. We had the interview yesterday. We were told what we needed for the adults and the kids who will be living in the home. Ok I dont have a CO for either of my kids. He said we needed to get one for both kids. Then said my dd school records would also wok but my ds is 3 and not in school so we wont get the decution for him. I need to find out if we are being jercked around because my ds has no father listed on his bc but I still have to get a CO for him to prove I have legal custody of him. Who else would have it? If his father was awarded custody he would be listed on the bc right. What is my next step? I also cant afford court right now.

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  • Anonymous 8
    by Anonymous 8
    February 21, 2013 at 1:51 AM
    How do you NOT know who fathered your child? How many men did you sleep with during a short amount of time? It just baffles me and makes me sick when I see people like that. Reminds me of Maury Povich, YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER.
    SMDH!

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I don't put who fathered my child down. I don't know who he is. You are an asshole. You can't type or spell correctly but always give someone bitchy judgemental crap.



    Get a life.



    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    Ah but that is how it is set up. And I don't get no money from my ex husband for my 2 sons but when something says list him. HE GETS LISTED. It doesn't matter if he can't pay. What matters is he is listed and they can go after him.

    She is crying how the system is set up. DON'T LIKE IT, STAY OFF OF IT.

    The sense of entitlement as " AS IF, WHO ARE THEY TO ASK WHO FATHERED THIS BABY. THE TAX PAYERS SHOULD JUST PAY!

    Bottom line, before you make a baby with someone at least know their NAME!

    And just because she is the only one the BC doesn't give her custody.

    Do you honestly think she is the first bitch who went in , gave birth and refused to put her one nighter done on a certificate?

    Not a chance.

    Quoting ambitious_MOM:

    Aaahhh bc you can't get blood from a rock and if her bf doesn't have an income she can't get cs so maybe she needs little help till she gets on her feet......damn back off she asked for advice not to be lectured judged and belittled by a nobody your not God so how dare you judge her and her situation......smh sheesh








    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    Ummm, Why should the tax payers of America be responsibile to pay a mom (you) and your child when it took 2 people to concieve that child. And why are you the only one on the birth certificate and where is the father? He is more responsibile to be paying for this child then the tax payers. They didn't create a child and not pay for the child.

    And why are you not going after the father for child support and if you don't know who the father is. Then you need to start doing DNA test.

    The message this state is sending to people that are on the system is this.

    If you are going to have babies and don't know who the father is who you made them with. Then that becomes a personal problem that you need to support all on your own. I have to agree with that.

    Here in NM you can't get Cash assistance or Food stamps unless you put down who the father of the absent father is. If you don't know then they will start doing DNA for the men who you listed you slept with.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    It really is. I know for daycare assistance the father has to be paying cs and they will not give it to you if you dont provide them with a name and get a dna test. but I dont get why if Im the only parent listed on the bc why do I have to prove I have custody?





    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    I don't have any idea about section 8 or hud. But it sounds like a big mess.











  • hunnybunny2001
    February 21, 2013 at 1:52 AM

    I worked for the housing authority in my county for 3 yrs I have never heard of anyone asking for a court order.. do you get welfare for the kids?? That is proof enough that you have custody of them.. I know that they will ask you to go to your local child support office and get a print out of you getting support.. If you do not get support you will have to have them write a note saying so.. IDK what state you are in but you really need to talk to your workers boss.. this sounds ass backwards to me..

  • Anonymous 5
    by Anonymous 5
    February 21, 2013 at 1:53 AM
    I was raped at the age of 14.

    I have only been with one man willingly, my husband.

    Please don't make yourself out to be as much of a dumbass as pixie.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    How do you NOT know who fathered your child? How many men did you sleep with during a short amount of time? It just baffles me and makes me sick when I see people like that. Reminds me of Maury Povich, YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER.

    SMDH!



    Quoting Anonymous:

    I don't put who fathered my child down. I don't know who he is. You are an asshole. You can't type or spell correctly but always give someone bitchy judgemental crap.





    Get a life.





    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    Ah but that is how it is set up. And I don't get no money from my ex husband for my 2 sons but when something says list him. HE GETS LISTED. It doesn't matter if he can't pay. What matters is he is listed and they can go after him.

    She is crying how the system is set up. DON'T LIKE IT, STAY OFF OF IT.

    The sense of entitlement as " AS IF, WHO ARE THEY TO ASK WHO FATHERED THIS BABY. THE TAX PAYERS SHOULD JUST PAY!

    Bottom line, before you make a baby with someone at least know their NAME!

    And just because she is the only one the BC doesn't give her custody.

    Do you honestly think she is the first bitch who went in , gave birth and refused to put her one nighter done on a certificate?

    Not a chance.

    Quoting ambitious_MOM:

    Aaahhh bc you can't get blood from a rock and if her bf doesn't have an income she can't get cs so maybe she needs little help till she gets on her feet......damn back off she asked for advice not to be lectured judged and belittled by a nobody your not God so how dare you judge her and her situation......smh sheesh











    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    Ummm, Why should the tax payers of America be responsibile to pay a mom (you) and your child when it took 2 people to concieve that child. And why are you the only one on the birth certificate and where is the father? He is more responsibile to be paying for this child then the tax payers. They didn't create a child and not pay for the child.

    And why are you not going after the father for child support and if you don't know who the father is. Then you need to start doing DNA test.

    The message this state is sending to people that are on the system is this.

    If you are going to have babies and don't know who the father is who you made them with. Then that becomes a personal problem that you need to support all on your own. I have to agree with that.

    Here in NM you can't get Cash assistance or Food stamps unless you put down who the father of the absent father is. If you don't know then they will start doing DNA for the men who you listed you slept with.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    It really is. I know for daycare assistance the father has to be paying cs and they will not give it to you if you dont provide them with a name and get a dna test. but I dont get why if Im the only parent listed on the bc why do I have to prove I have custody?






    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    I don't have any idea about section 8 or hud. But it sounds like a big mess.













  • Anonymous 7
    by Anonymous 7
    February 21, 2013 at 1:54 AM

    OK so that's what I live in,section 8 apartments.  I never needed any of those things.


    Quoting Anonymous:

    section8


    Quoting Anonymous:

    Well which are you applying for?


    Quoting Anonymous:

    I think HUD is more state run than section8. Section8 can be a house and its more like renting. You have to look for houses for rent and ask the owner if they take section8. 

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I didn't know there was a difference.  It's an apartment complex not a house if that matters.


    Quoting Anonymous:

    I think HUD and Section8 are different so there are a few different rules. Like FS and WIC both are for food but work differently


    Quoting Anonymous:

    I'm in PA and moved into hud housing when my kids were 1 1/2.  Their father is not on the BC and doesn't pay CS and I was never asked for records or a CO  













  • Anonymous 9
    by Anonymous 9
    February 21, 2013 at 1:55 AM

      JUST GO TO YOUR COURT HOUSE, ASK FOR THE LEGAL LIBRARY AND ASK FOR A PETITION IT WILL COST UNDER 1.00 AND FILL IT OUT ASKING THE COURT TO GRANT YOU CUSTODY. ITS SIMPLE AND SINCE YOUR BROKE THEY SHOULDN'T CHARGE YOU ANYTHING.

     

  • Anonymous 8
    by Anonymous 8
    February 21, 2013 at 1:56 AM
    Honey you are talking to two different anonymous. One is the OP. The other is not.

    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    You said yourself. " You don't know who he is?"

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I didnt refuse anything. He wasnt there and in my state if the parents are not married and the father isnt at the hospital to sign the bc its unknown. He vanished on me and ds. It was not a one night stand. And until this point I have been off PA. 




    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    Ah but that is how it is set up. And I don't get no money from my ex husband for my 2 sons but when something says list him. HE GETS LISTED. It doesn't matter if he can't pay. What matters is he is listed and they can go after him.

    She is crying how the system is set up. DON'T LIKE IT, STAY OFF OF IT.

    The sense of entitlement as " AS IF, WHO ARE THEY TO ASK WHO FATHERED THIS BABY. THE TAX PAYERS SHOULD JUST PAY!

    Bottom line, before you make a baby with someone at least know their NAME!

    And just because she is the only one the BC doesn't give her custody.

    Do you honestly think she is the first bitch who went in , gave birth and refused to put her one nighter done on a certificate?

    Not a chance.

    Quoting ambitious_MOM:

    Aaahhh bc you can't get blood from a rock and if her bf doesn't have an income she can't get cs so maybe she needs little help till she gets on her feet......damn back off she asked for advice not to be lectured judged and belittled by a nobody your not God so how dare you judge her and her situation......smh sheesh








    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    Ummm, Why should the tax payers of America be responsibile to pay a mom (you) and your child when it took 2 people to concieve that child. And why are you the only one on the birth certificate and where is the father? He is more responsibile to be paying for this child then the tax payers. They didn't create a child and not pay for the child.

    And why are you not going after the father for child support and if you don't know who the father is. Then you need to start doing DNA test.

    The message this state is sending to people that are on the system is this.

    If you are going to have babies and don't know who the father is who you made them with. Then that becomes a personal problem that you need to support all on your own. I have to agree with that.

    Here in NM you can't get Cash assistance or Food stamps unless you put down who the father of the absent father is. If you don't know then they will start doing DNA for the men who you listed you slept with.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    It really is. I know for daycare assistance the father has to be paying cs and they will not give it to you if you dont provide them with a name and get a dna test. but I dont get why if Im the only parent listed on the bc why do I have to prove I have custody?





    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    I don't have any idea about section 8 or hud. But it sounds like a big mess.
















  • BelleVernonGirl
    February 21, 2013 at 1:56 AM

    Well honey... don't feed the trolls...


    Quoting Anonymous:

    If you catch he in another post you'll see. I've been on this site for quite awhile now and she is ALWAYS rude and negative.

    You could post "look at my beautiful baby" and she would be the one person to say how ugly your kid is.

    She is trash and knows it.

    Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

    I was talking about the one you were replying to...she obviously knows everything about everyone's lives...



    Quoting Anonymous:

    What do you mean? Im not in this sitiution. I wasnt raped but it has been known to happen was all I was saying.



    Quoting BelleVernonGirl:


    Some ppl know EVERYTHING....


    Quoting Anonymous:

    If this was me I would be worried about my rapist getting parenteral rights.



    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    And if a rape was the case. You have a child from it. Press charges. ( But you didn't) Get the rapist DNA. By the child and press charges. 

    Please. To much technology. 

    And if it was a rape, you think you were his first.

    Please, you have the best evidence in a rape case.

    So don't blow that shit up my ass.















  • Anonymous 5
    by Anonymous 5
    February 21, 2013 at 1:58 AM
    I usually don't. Silly me, I assumed another view point could shed some light. I definitely should have known better.

    Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

    Well honey... don't feed the trolls...



    Quoting Anonymous:

    If you catch he in another post you'll see. I've been on this site for quite awhile now and she is ALWAYS rude and negative.



    You could post "look at my beautiful baby" and she would be the one person to say how ugly your kid is.



    She is trash and knows it.



    Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

    I was talking about the one you were replying to...she obviously knows everything about everyone's lives...




    Quoting Anonymous:

    What do you mean? Im not in this sitiution. I wasnt raped but it has been known to happen was all I was saying.




    Quoting BelleVernonGirl:


    Some ppl know EVERYTHING....



    Quoting Anonymous:

    If this was me I would be worried about my rapist getting parenteral rights.




    Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

    And if a rape was the case. You have a child from it. Press charges. ( But you didn't) Get the rapist DNA. By the child and press charges. 

    Please. To much technology. 

    And if it was a rape, you think you were his first.

    Please, you have the best evidence in a rape case.

    So don't blow that shit up my ass.




















  • Anonymous 5
    by Anonymous 5
    February 21, 2013 at 2:00 AM
    This.

    We are only required to see proof of residency for said child. If you are receiving other benefits that *should* be enough.

    Good luck op.

    Quoting hunnybunny2001:

    I worked for the housing authority in my county for 3 yrs I have never heard of anyone asking for a court order.. do you get welfare for the kids?? That is proof enough that you have custody of them.. I know that they will ask you to go to your local child support office and get a print out of you getting support.. If you do not get support you will have to have them write a note saying so.. IDK what state you are in but you really need to talk to your workers boss.. this sounds ass backwards to me..

  • bowribbonmama
    February 21, 2013 at 2:01 AM
    I saw you mention something about a DA. Could he not write you a letter saying that the father is unknown due to the rape?

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