Im listening to my iPod at full blast to drown out my child's crying. *etu*
February 18, 2013 at 9:53 PM
He's 7, not a baby. And he problems with sassing back lately. Just constantly being contrary and sassing back.
Today I told him he needed to get out of the bath. He sweetly asked for more time, I said 5mins. He asked for more. I said ok.
25mins later I said "ok sweets, time to get out"
he replied with "no! I will not! I say when I get out NOT YOU!"
Well then. I took the plug. Said sternly without yelling "you will get out this instant and get dressed young man." and walked out.
He got out, got dressed. I tucked him in and let him know since he was so ungrateful for the extra 25mins I gave him, I would be taking the time back by not reading him a story. I reminded him if he escalated so would his consequence.
He is now in his room screaming and crying how he hates me, trying to bait me but not leaving his room.
So Im listening to music instead of him hoping he falls asleep and feeling frustrated, mean and exhausted.
I want to thank all the moms who gave me such helpful suggestions and advice. I used a timer tonight and explained the time would not be extended, that when it went off it was done. When it went off I went in and took the plug and left him to come out on his own (he did in a reasonable time, after doing the butt slide thing lol).
He went to bed without arguments, escalation or battles.
The timer and no negotiation suggestions were life savers, thanks to the 2 moms that made those suggestions! You guys rock!
My 4 yr old is a little harder to manage than the other kids. However, I believe in using spanking (where appropriate), and laying in bed screaming at the top of his lungs about how he hates me would be something I'd consider spanking for.
I drain the tub with him in it. He knows once the water is gone, it's time to get out.
Of course, he does the tub slide for a few, lol.
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
February 18, 2013 at 9:57 PM
I stopped giving him warnings because when I used to give them to him he would freak out. I would tell hims top or such and such and he would do it to spite me. Now he does not get a warning or told what the consequence is. He is expected to just behave and learn from his mistakes.
It actually has worked better and for the most part eliminated power struggles.
You should have given him the possible consequence BEFORE implementing it - giving him time and a chance to change his behaviour.
So I disagree with what you did. Nothing personal though...
i AGREE WITH THE FIRST COMMENTER, That was very immature of you to discipline him for you giving im extra time, it's not a punishment to let him have an extra 25 minutes in the tub and you get 25 minutes free!