Mom Confessions
According to some (not just on CM, but IRL) I am selfish for the children I have, and the way they were birthed. It's ok though. I love them. I love the choices I made on how and where they were birthed. I would, and might, do it again. ;)
One person's selfish choice is another person's correct choice. If we want to be eeal about this, we are all selfish. We decide what is right because of what we think, feel, know, want, fear, believe, hope for, etc... We are always going to be viewed as selfish by somebody. Who cares!
My last baby was born at home. She was our 5th home birth. Her home birth may have been selfish to some. However, I'm sure that I would have NEVER been allowed to go just shy of 43 weeks if I birthed in the hospital. I would have had to force her out before she was ready. I would have had interventions that I did not want pushed on me. With the size she was, I might have also ended up with a cesarean because I would not have been able to birth her on my back. It would not have been possible to get her out that way. I know this for a fact. However, some see this as selfish on my part. :(
Just because it's not the choice many women would make doesn't mean it's wrong. It's just different. Everyone needs to make the choice they are most comfortable with.
For every selfish mother here... Those who birthed at home, in the hospital, in a birthing center, cesarean section, unassisted, midwife assisted, OB assisted, vaginal, natural, with pain medications... Post your baby pictures...
Show off your babies!!!
This is the fast story of my last birth. Let us see if the pictures pull up (I'm mobile and trying this mulitple uploading trick).
Jan 8, 2013
42 weeks 5 days
Home Water Birth (birth weight 10lb 11oz)
Joy while I was showering. DH cleaning her up as she pinks up.
Joy's First Day
Our Family
Our Joy, 5 weeks later.
5 Weeks
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She's gorgeous!! I *think* I'd like to have a home birth but it scares me for some reason :/ I really don't know why.. I'd like to go all natural next time but I also think if I were to birth in the hospital I'd be more inclined to ask for an epidural. But we aren't ttc, we're actively preventing, so that's something I won't have to think about for a little while!
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Beautiful kids! And how are you selfish for a home birth?
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Congrats!
I had 3 c-sections.. I was told my pelvic bone could not pass a baby larger than 2lbs.. I guess I'll never know..
EIGHT kiddos!? I'm worn out with three.. Hello super woman.. haha
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The second picture O.o -
Awesome! what a beautiful family! Are you religious by any chance?
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If I was to birth in the hospital, I would probably cave in with an epi. Even with how it messed up my back. It's just that it's so easy to give up when it's offered.
My home births were all so amazing. If you think you might want one, study them out. You might do good to talk with some local midwives just to talk to them and learn more about home birth and what midwives offer.
You might also see if there are any birthing centers near you. They are many times a good middle ground.
Quoting mydarlingsofia:
She's gorgeous!! I *think* I'd like to have a home birth but it scares me for some reason :/ I really don't know why.. I'd like to go all natural next time but I also think if I were to birth in the hospital I'd be more inclined to ask for an epidural. But we aren't ttc, we're actively preventing, so that's something I won't have to think about for a little while!
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All humans are selfish by nature. In fact, all species are selfish. It's how we survive as a whole. So to me there is nothing wrong with being selfish. It's a flipping instinct for goodness sake.
As far as home births go. I'm pro choice. I believe women have the right to do what ever they please with their bodies. -
Love that last picture! Baby Joy is beautiful.
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I always wished I could see my kids all gooey...... i had emergency c section with number 1 and a scheduled with number 2 and they always wiped the boys down before showing them to me.. I never saw a "gooey" baby before thank you.
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It is an ongoing thing. Big families and home birth posts in different places. LOL!
Quoting Annettey19:
Beautiful kids! And how are you selfish for a home birth?