On valentines day? Or never?

[Anonymous]

First I want to say- I know when you start snooping you find things that you don't want to find but I've had a feeling for awhile that dh is hiding something from me. He always has his text messages and emails erased immediately.
Anyway, I got on his Facebook account from our home computer and found all his private messages deleted but some archived. These messages were from 6/2012 and I found two disturbing ones.
One was to an ex that he almost married. He gave her his phone number and told her to text him sometime. She asked him if I was ok with them texting and he told her that what i don't know wont hurt me. She told him that her dh wouldn't like it and that was the end of that conversation.

Second conversation was between him and his best friends ex wife. He told her that he should have been her boyfriend instead and that she should have given him a chance.

I need to approach him about this and I don't know if I can wait. I know it's valentines day but I'm so upset and need to get this off my chest.

What would you do in my shoes???

[Anonymous]

I personally would talk to him about it right away.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Thank you. That's what I was thinking as well.

Quoting Anonymous:

I personally would talk to him about it right away.

[Anonymous]

I would talk to him right away doesn't matter what the day is. It needs to be figured out but I would also have proof in my hands, can you get phone records?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I have the emails that were sent back and forth.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would talk to him right away doesn't matter what the day is. It needs to be figured out but I would also have proof in my hands, can you get phone records?

[Anonymous]

Quoting Anonymous:

I have the emails that were sent back and forth.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would talk to him right away doesn't matter what the day is. It needs to be figured out but I would also have proof in my hands, can you get phone records?

Super, but I would still see about finding phone records and see what #'s are being texted to . I can get our phone records & see who dh is texting just not what they say.

[Anonymous]

i'd say something as soon as i saw him. nothing about that is okay. if he doesn't fess up and apologize perfusely (sp?) ..then you have some serious things to figure out mama. sorry this happened and good luck!

[armywifey26]

If you have verizon you can get a copy of what numbers have been texted and how frequently. 

[Lalalie]

I would discuss it immediately.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I've looked over the last two months of phone records. These emails were from 6/2012 and nothing has been out if the ordinary that I found on his phone.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

I have the emails that were sent back and forth.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would talk to him right away doesn't matter what the day is. It needs to be figured out but I would also have proof in my hands, can you get phone records?

Super, but I would still see about finding phone records and see what #'s are being texted to . I can get our phone records & see who dh is texting just not what they say.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Thank you!

Quoting Anonymous:

i'd say something as soon as i saw him. nothing about that is okay. if he doesn't fess up and apologize perfusely (sp?) ..then you have some serious things to figure out mama. sorry this happened and good luck!