Mom Confessions
Dh and I have one child. Ever since we got together we talked about having multiple children but now DH isn't so sure. Our LO will be 2 soon and I am having baby fever. I'm trying to convince DH that we should start ttc but he keeps saying no because of what I went through when I had our DD. That is his only reason.
I had a very horrific labor and while I understand that he doesn't want that to happen again, we now know what to look out for and every pregnancy is different. How can I convince him that pregnancy #2 won't be bad just because pregnancy #1 was?
I should also add that I am very healthy now and I would consult with my OBGYN before ttc just to be sure that I'm physically ready.
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How do you know it won't be as bad as #1?
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I don't. But I also don't want to let the fear of what happened keep me from having more kids.
Quoting Anonymous:
How do you know it won't be as bad as #1? -
well what made it horrific? I'm all curious
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I'm the one that doesn't want anymore kids. No one would be able to convince me no matter what....
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My first pregnancy resulted in a loss of dh's and my dd. it was horrid. My 2nd pregnancy wasn't planned but my labor was horrid as well. I went into ptl at 32 weeks, and had to have an emergency Csec. It took 4 1/2 yeas for dh to consent to another baby. I found a great on who cared for my special high risk needs and had my beautiful dd 5 months ago.
Give him time. His fears are real and u both should see an OB and talk about them before even attempting to convince him to TTC. :) -
I went into labor a month early. I ended up having a seizure due to high blood pressure and I needed a c section and two surgeries after for internal bleeding. I had a difficult time waking up from the third surgery and woke up in ICU a few days later. It was a mess but I now know that I need to monitor my blood pressure a little more and that I need to go into the hospital when I start swelling too much. I never realized that my swelling was way past being normal.
Quoting bustybee:
well what made it horrific? I'm all curious
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I would just give him some more time
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I am so sorry. I couldn't imagine going through that. I realize that he just needs time but my fear is that he'll keep reliving that day instead of moving on. Dd was perfectly healthy the entire time.
I will definitely have him go to the OB with me just to help ease his mind a little.
Quoting eykelley:
My first pregnancy resulted in a loss of dh's and my dd. it was horrid. My 2nd pregnancy wasn't planned but my labor was horrid as well. I went into ptl at 32 weeks, and had to have an emergency Csec. It took 4 1/2 yeas for dh to consent to another baby. I found a great on who cared for my special high risk needs and had my beautiful dd 5 months ago.
Give him time. His fears are real and u both should see an OB and talk about them before even attempting to convince him to TTC. :)