One of the main issues is the talk though.. He wants me to talk dirty, but when I do he gets so excited he starts laughing like a little boy getting his first o.
I've tried to talk to him about it but I just don't know how to explain it to him to get him better at it. I like it a little rougher and for the man to take the lead so it's really frustrating always having to be in control to get myself there.
No I don't want to leave him!! I just don't know how to get him better at this :(
February 6 at 1:11 AM
I was going to suggest this as well
Find what you like and watch it will him and explain you like the techniques or whatever in the porn and can you too reenact it together
watch porn and show him ;)
by PurgatorianFebruary 6 at 2:00 AMOP do you masturbate? Show him exactly what you like and how hard, soft, etc. Have him put his hand on top of yours to get the right amount of pressure and pace. In a sultry voice tell him and show him simultaneously.
Have him get you close to orgasm with fingers, tongue, or toys before penetration.
Does he know where your G-spot is? Do you know where it is?
I think the key to great sex is knowing how to get yourself there first in numerous ways, then you can teach. Don't beat around the bush with him (no pun intended) or hope he will pick up on little ques, you know after 7 years marriage is work... have an open and honest conversation with him on making your sex life the best it can be.
It's one if the most natural things in life. No reason why it can't be one of the best either... sounds like you have all the working pieces, just need to put the puzzle together.
As for toys, besides the cockring to make him last longer I would suggest you get your first B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend) learn how to use it on yourself then teach him. Go small for your first one, possibly a bullet or a g-spot dildo.
February 6 at 11:31 AM
Hopefully things start to get better for you. i would love three to four times a week
February 6 at 11:32 AM
by woolyFebruary 6 at 12:31 PM
LOLOL! I 've been there. He has no idea what he's feeling.
Lol!! Oh thank goodness mine isn't the only one directionally challenged down there! He had his hands down there one night and I was like what are you doing? He said playing with your clit! I was like Um no, that the freaking crease in my leg deary!
I feel your pain. My dh is ok, but when he gets really excited he drools and then he thinks he's the energizer bunny. So while he's doingn this In could make out a grocery list or read a book cause I don't feel a thing. He's also the only man I've ever met that can't find what counts when it comes to foreplay. he can find it with his tongue, but never with his fingers. Let's just say it's a far from stellar performance. He's a great guy in every other way but honestly some times I'm tempted to go find an anonymous one night stand just for the sex!!
by AnonymousFebruary 6 at 12:32 PM
Watch porn together??? Maybe he needs to see how other guys do their thing and take some notes.. =)