Mom Confessions
Ok, I have seen that a lot of women on here like to say that if a couple isn't married, they're just playing house. So, if a woman can't biologically have a child and the married couple adopts (or not married couple for that matter), that makes them "playing house" as well. If a couple needs to be married in order for the women on here to recognize them as a valid family, I think that a woman needs to biologically have a child in order to be a real mom.
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Why are people so concerned about what others think? If a woman is happily living with a man and they're not married, why should she care if others call her living choices "shacking up" or "playing house".
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I see what you did there!
It's like when legislatures tried to pass the laws about husbands needing to approve for a woman to get an abortion or birth control, so some woman proposed a law that men get permission from their wives before getting viagra or a vasectomy. That made me lol and lol and lol. Show them how stupid they are and they just might cut the crap.
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Eh the only people who call it "playing house" are married moms who think they're superior just because they have a ring... even if they hate their husbands and/or he is beating her ass. "Well at least I have a ring!" Lol. Just ignore it.
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Your analogy, BTW, is severly flawed. If a couple adopts a child, that child is LEGALLY, their son or daughter. If you're living with a person that doesn't make you legally married.
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No, it's not flawed. Not once did I say you're legally married if you're living together as a family. I stated that people on here like to discredit unmarried couples with children as a family. I have been told we're not a legitimate family, not a valid family, only "playing house". So, that to me means a family who adopts would also be "playing house" because their children aren't biologically connected to them.
Quoting momto2boys973:
Your analogy, BTW, is severly flawed. If a couple adopts a child, that child is LEGALLY, their son or daughter. If you're living with a person that doesn't make you legally married. -
You are comparing apples to oranges. Your analogy is lacking.
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This literally makes no sense bad metaphor -
Your comparison is apples and oranges.
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Adoption creates a legal relationships, along with the all the rights and obligations that go along with that relationship. Except for the few states that recognize common law marriages, living together does not create a legal relationship.
Quoting Anonymous:
No, it's not flawed. Not once did I say you're legally married if you're living together as a family. I stated that people on here like to discredit unmarried couples with children as a family. I have been told we're not a legitimate family, not a valid family, only "playing house". So, that to me means a family who adopts would also be "playing house" because their children aren't biologically connected to them.
Quoting momto2boys973:
Your analogy, BTW, is severly flawed. If a couple adopts a child, that child is LEGALLY, their son or daughter. If you're living with a person that doesn't make you legally married. -
That's not a valid comparison.