Mom Confessions

sheymann
Do NOT put me on a pedestal!
January 28, 2013 at 11:57 AM

DF likes to tell me how perfect I am and it's starting to really get to me. I am NOT by ANY means perfect. I am human. I have my flaws and I make mistakes. 

It has started affecting our relationship. Any time I make a mistake or my flaws are visible, he starts to withdraw and it's getting on my nerve. 

Don't put me on a damn pedestal and you wouldn't be dissapointed when you realize I am no a goddess, but only human.

(It is starting to get better because I keep talking to him about it.)

Does your SO put you on a pedestal?
  • Only group members can vote in this poll.
  1. 16% - Yes and I love it.
  2. 6% - Yes, but it annoys me.
  3. 41% - No and I'm glad.
  4. 24% - No, but I wish he would.
  5. 10% - Other because there always is.

Replies

  • sheymann
    January 28, 2013 at 1:15 PM

    Actions can speak louder than words. 


    Quoting Anonymous:

    And see that's what I mean, he does nice things for me but rarely does he compliment me :(

    Quoting sheymann:

    I would never put anyone on a pedestal, just because no one deserves that. 

    I will be nice to him and do things for him and spoil him and he does the same to me, but I still do not expect him to be perfect.



    Quoting Anonymous:

    I put other because he doesn't put me on one but every now and then it would be kind of nice.






  • sheymann
    January 28, 2013 at 1:15 PM

    Thank you for making me laugh. :)


    Quoting Anonymous:

    Okay, I won't.



  • sheymann
    January 28, 2013 at 1:16 PM

    That's how I feel, but DF keeps acting like I am perfect and when I make mistakes he gets upset and withdrwan.


    Quoting XJetX:

    No, nobody is 'perfect'. Loving someone isn't about finding someone that's perfect, it's about finding someone and loving them perfectly.

    Quoting sheymann:

    Right, but he doesn't expect you to be perfect does he?



    Quoting XJetX:

    Depends on the day. Most of the time I'm pretty spoiled, and always well taken care of. He comes home with flowers and gifts on a whim, and I know he loves me more than anything. But no relationship would be complete without a few arguments now and then






  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    January 28, 2013 at 1:18 PM
    He doesn't buy me flowers or things like that. He considers buying my feminine hygiene items as an on a whim purchase even if he's already out and asks if I need anything :-/

    Quoting sheymann:

    Actions can speak louder than words. 



    Quoting Anonymous:

    And see that's what I mean, he does nice things for me but rarely does he compliment me :(



    Quoting sheymann:

    I would never put anyone on a pedestal, just because no one deserves that. 

    I will be nice to him and do things for him and spoil him and he does the same to me, but I still do not expect him to be perfect.




    Quoting Anonymous:

    I put other because he doesn't put me on one but every now and then it would be kind of nice.








  • sheymann
    January 28, 2013 at 1:22 PM

    Considering I know plenty of guys who won't buy feminine hygiene items, that's something.

    Have you takled to him about it?


    Quoting Anonymous:

    He doesn't buy me flowers or things like that. He considers buying my feminine hygiene items as an on a whim purchase even if he's already out and asks if I need anything :-/

    Quoting sheymann:

    Actions can speak louder than words. 



    Quoting Anonymous:

    And see that's what I mean, he does nice things for me but rarely does he compliment me :(



    Quoting sheymann:

    I would never put anyone on a pedestal, just because no one deserves that. 

    I will be nice to him and do things for him and spoil him and he does the same to me, but I still do not expect him to be perfect.




    Quoting Anonymous:

    I put other because he doesn't put me on one but every now and then it would be kind of nice.










  • Dawnzilla
    January 28, 2013 at 1:26 PM

    He puts me along with all of my flaws on a pedestal. As I do him. It works for us. We've been through hell and back together and appreciate the good and bad in each other.

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    January 28, 2013 at 1:28 PM
    You're welcome. Any time ! :)

    Quoting sheymann:

    Thank you for making me laugh. :)



    Quoting Anonymous:

    Okay, I won't.




  • AllieReed
    January 28, 2013 at 1:33 PM

    He doesn't REALLY have you on a pedastal if he is disappointed in you or withdrawing from you.

  • sheymann
    January 28, 2013 at 1:39 PM

    It's only when I break the "perfect" imagine that he does that, so yes, he does.


    Quoting AllieReed:

    He doesn't REALLY have you on a pedastal if he is disappointed in you or withdrawing from you.



  • sheymann
    January 28, 2013 at 1:39 PM

    I help do things for him but I wouldn't "put him on a pedestal" so to speak.


    Quoting Dawnzilla:

    He puts me along with all of my flaws on a pedestal. As I do him. It works for us. We've been through hell and back together and appreciate the good and bad in each other.



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