He is 7 and in 2nd grade. That is just not him at all to act that way. Im really in shock. Apparently, ithappened at recess. He punched another boy in the face and gave him a bloody nose. His teacher said she's not sure WHY it happened. She was out of school yesterday so she's trying to figure out the details, but she was just giving me a heads up.
Question is, I don't even know how to discipline for this. I've never dealt with either of my kids being violent. Any advice? I don't know anymore details than what I've written.
First find out if he was defending himself or someone else against a physical threat. If so, don't punish. At all. We should all stand up for our selves and others.
If he was defending himself for "bullying" (I hate that term, but it may be appropriate here), then punish just a little (ie, take away a toy for a week). Boys need to set boundaries. If another kid was giving him a hard time, ds wanted it to stop without tattling. That's commendable, IMO. Ds won't get "bullied" again by that kid.
If your kid started, lay down the law. He loses everything and has to make a heartfeld apology to the other kid.
Keep in mind sometimes it takes a few days to get enough details out of a little one to figure out what really happened. They don't always have a clear understanding of the sequence of events. They may not remember to tell you that the other kid pushed them down every day the last week. They may say "I don't know" if you quiz too much.