SO is out of town for work. Won't be back for at least a week. My neighbor wants me to go out with her Saturday to a dj/karaoke party in a town 30 minutes away. She is willing to pay her 18 year old niece to stay with my kids, buy my drinks, and get the hotel room.
So I asked SO if I could go. He said " why are you asking, you are grown, kids are taking care of, go". I just feel it would be disrespectful of me to go without making sure he was OK with it.