I was chatting with another mom friend recently when the topic of kids who call their parents by their first names -- you know, instead of "mom" or "dad." We both agreed that it's sort of cute
when little kids fall into the habit accidentally, like a 2-year-old
cousin of mine who used to call her dad "Bill." There was just something
hilarious about the way her odd choice played into everyday
conversation: "And then I went to the park with Mommy and Bill, and then
Bill pushed me on the swing, and then Mommy said no ice cream but Bill
If you didn't know better, you'd wonder if maybe Mommy wasn't having
an affair with this "Bill" character. Anyway, we also agreed that
hearing a teen calling her dad "Bill" (or her mom
"Kate" or whatever) is a different sort of animal altogether. I'm not
sure how I would feel about my 11-year-old, for example, calling me by
my first name. On the one hand, what's the big deal?
difference does it really make? On the other, it's the kind of seemingly
trivial thing that can end up meaning so much more.
Some parents I know would take their kid calling them by name as a sign of disrespect,
which I guess I understand. But for me, I think it would be more about
... loss. Like being demoted, or something. When you think about it,
you're going to call pretty much every single person you meet in your
entire life by name. Besides teachers, doctors, dentists, police
officers and people in the military or clergy, that is. And even then,
there's the possibility of overlap. You might meet more than one Mr.
Franklin or Dr. Shapiro over the years ... but in the vast majority of
cases, you only get one (maybe two) people designated as Mom or Dad.
I don't want to miss out on being one of those people, especially
when I already am one of those people. If you know what I mean. I had
the kids. I am a mom. I am THEIR mom. If the shoe fits, call a spade a
spade? Oh, you know what I mean.
My son switches back and forth. I don't mind. It's not a big deal. He's 2, but even if he did it when he got older, I wouldn't mind. The importance of my role isn't in my title. It's not like I call him Son all the time.
Your child calling you mom,mommy, mama etc is the most precious thing to hear everyday. Only idiots would give up that privilege. It implies a very distinct relationship. Not everyone can be called by this name...the name carries a special meaning. Perhaps if the situation is such that the "mom"didn't come with all the motherly things, it could be different.