Mom Confessions
Update:
I was very upset about everything so I went over to see the pastors wife. She said she did not tell my friend about our conversation, just that she offered her support and prayers if she needed them because she noticed that she had missed a few bible studies and teas. She said she told her that if there was anything going on, her office is always open to her.
She told me that she thought my friend had miscarried, but after our discussion she guessed that it was my friend I had supported.
I am honestly torn. I just wish my friend would talk to me and tell me exactly what was said.
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A few months ago my best friend had an abortion. I understood her reasons, but pleaded with her to speak with our pastors wife to see if we could come up with an alternative. She refused because she was afraid of the pastors wife judging her. She went through with the abortion and I not only loaned her money towards it and took her, but lied to her family about everything and let her recover at my home.
I feel like I am an accomplice in a murder. Abortion goes against everything I believe in. I love my friend, but I hate what she did.
Yesterday after service I pulled aside the pastors wife and explained what I did and how I felt. I didn't reveal my friends name or any identifying info, but somehow she guessed and called my friend last night. My friend called me and told she never wants to see me again, and I am no longer her kids godmom. I tried to explain what I said and why I spoke to the pastors wife. But she wouldn't listen.
I was very upset about everything so I went over to see the pastors wife. She said she did not tell my friend about our conversation, just that she offered her support and prayers if she needed them because she noticed that she had missed a few bible studies and teas. She said she told her that if there was anything going on, her office is always open to her.
She told me that she thought my friend had miscarried, but after our discussion she guessed that it was my friend I had supported.
I am honestly torn. I just wish my friend would talk to me and tell me exactly what was said.
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A few months ago my best friend had an abortion. I understood her reasons, but pleaded with her to speak with our pastors wife to see if we could come up with an alternative. She refused because she was afraid of the pastors wife judging her. She went through with the abortion and I not only loaned her money towards it and took her, but lied to her family about everything and let her recover at my home.
I feel like I am an accomplice in a murder. Abortion goes against everything I believe in. I love my friend, but I hate what she did.
Yesterday after service I pulled aside the pastors wife and explained what I did and how I felt. I didn't reveal my friends name or any identifying info, but somehow she guessed and called my friend last night. My friend called me and told she never wants to see me again, and I am no longer her kids godmom. I tried to explain what I said and why I spoke to the pastors wife. But she wouldn't listen.
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You shouldn't have helped her if you didn't believe in it. That wasn't your situation to tell. You deserve to e removed from her life, I would have done the same if I were her.
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Exactly
Quoting Anonymous:
You shouldn't have helped her if you didn't believe in it. That wasn't your situation to tell. You deserve to e removed from her life, I would have done the same if I were her.
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You broke her confidence. You never should have opened your mouth.
If you had any respect for your friendship with her, you wouldn't have gone and blabbed to the very person she didn't want to know.
Great job!
I don't blame her for being pissed at you! -
Oh why would you do that? You didn't care about your friend you were being selfish.
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I helped her because she was desperate and I was afraid she would try something physically unsafe. I didn't think I would feel this way afterwards. I also didn't think the pastors wife would guess who she was or confront her.
Quoting Anonymous:
You shouldn't have helped her if you didn't believe in it. That wasn't your situation to tell. You deserve to e removed from her life, I would have done the same if I were her.
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Abortion is such a touchy subject and there's no real gray area about it. I can understand your loyalty to your friend and helping her out even though you were against the decision but it would've been better to have not helped her just for the fact that ended up wrestling with your conscience and basically betraying your friends trust and losing her in the process. I don't know... But unfortunately if I was your friend I would prolly treat you the same. There are something's that you just don't say... -
I would've done the same thing if I were your friend. She didn't want the pastor's wife to know for a REASON. You are a very bad friend to have disrespected that.
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Well said.
Quoting Anonymous:
You shouldn't have helped her if you didn't believe in it. That wasn't your situation to tell. You deserve to e removed from her life, I would have done the same if I were her. -
It wasn't your story to tell. If you really needed to talk about it, you should have spoken to someone that doesn't know the friend period. I would have done the same thing as her and cut you out.
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id be pissed off at you too. she trusted you. you were better off telling her no from the start.