We NEVER let the kids get in on our tablets, or more than one episode on TV per week, or the computer (even though my son's first grade teacher at school encourages my son to do about 45 minutes on two different programs once a week. I just won't. He's six.).
They sneak our tablets and cell phones ALL THE FREAKING TIME. Pisses me off. I catch them watching netflix on the tablet like, every day. Or playing a game on my/DH's phone. They don't have any age-appropriate electronics- like a Nintendo DS, or a V-tech or a Leap Frog. No. There is no "age appropriate" screen I am comfortable with. They can learn letters from a workbook, and anything else from me, or school.
My kids are 6, 5 and 3. I see mom's all the time talking about how they use video games and computer time as discipline- or encouragement to be better behaved, or allow them to play for a period of time after the important things are done.
I let my boys play mario kart on the Wii the other day. I had TONS of school stuff and cleaning and organizing to do, and I thought- okay a few hours, so I can focus without them fighting.
When it was time to stop for meals, for potty breaks, for ANYTHING... they screamed, threw tantrums, acted like fools and threw me a nasty attitude. Um, no. Where are my kids?! What happened to order and sanity?!
Then, I told them to bundle up and head outside. They literally SAT THERE for 30 minutes. They had no idea what to do. The day before, they spent the whole day imagining things, playing super heroes, jumping off ledges and chasing each other with the dogs. Today... nothing. They had like ZERO capacity for imaginative play.
And yes, I blame electronics. When more creative minds create a system that does the imagining FOR them, they'd rather sit in that little world, content to let someone else do the work, and be entertained.
Sorry... not my kids. I'm so mad at myself for letting them play as long as I did. And now the Tablets are going up high every time DH and I are not using them, my cell is staying ON MY PERSONS and the computer screen will be LOCKED when not in use. TV requires permission from BOTH parents, no movies, no TV... no way.
I refuse to have zombies with bad attitudes for children.
by AnonymousJanuary 11, 2013 at 12:49 PMWow.
by AnonymousJanuary 11, 2013 at 12:50 PM
You sound like a control freak. My kids are allowed to watch tv, and have no electronic devices (and wont until they can afford them either by chores or by a job), but damn....and theyre 5, 3 and 8 months
January 11, 2013 at 12:51 PM
My kids play on my iPad once in awhile and are still fully capable of using their imaginations and playing outside. i bet they want to play so much because they know it's fun and you won't let them.
by lilbit53009January 11, 2013 at 12:52 PM
my son has his own iPad. he's 3.5 and can already read simple words because of the apps he plays with. but don't get me wrong he also watches Netflix and plays other games
he also loves to play dress up with his old halloween costumes, play with his train tracks, play basketball and baseball, and loves to go to the park and play. he takes all his action heros and pretends to fight with them and makes up different games.
we live in a world of electronics now. there's no stopping that. i wouldn't want to not let my son use something that he's going to have to learn how to use anyways.
as long as there's a balance and he's not using it 24/7 i don't see an issue
by AnonymousJanuary 11, 2013 at 12:53 PMYou're so perfect yet your kids are alone long enough to sneak a tablet and watch a movie. Riiiight lady. They also know how to work them and get on Netflix....yet you never let them use them.
by jillbailey26January 11, 2013 at 12:55 PM
It's been proven that moderate screen time with video games or handheld games can be beneficial.
They threw tantrums and sneak it because you don't have boundaries set up for when they play. It also seems like you don't let them play that often.
Mine play on the computer for one hour on Friday and another on Saturday. They earn video game time through the week and they play for up to an hour (depending on grades and behavior) on Friday. The boys have kindles. They can play with apps (games) for an hour and reading is unlimited. They can watch TV whenever they want, however long they want.
They're not zombies, they CHOOSE to go outside and play. They'll even stop in the middle of their video game time to go out and play. And they rarely have bad attitudes.
To me, you're holding them back. Especially in an age where everything is going digital. They're your kids though. It is funny that you blame the electronics though. They're objects. I can assure you that the blame is being focused on the wrong thing.
Wow, I think that's going from one extreme to the other. There are ways to have balance. My kids watch tv, have kindles and play the Wii, but have no problems and still love playing dress up, imaginary play and board games. They also color and love to do work books. Let them play with it, but set a timer or tell them ahead of time, you can play for this long of a time.
I have found with my kids that it helps if I say, ok turn them off in 5 minutes, or after the next race, or board. That really helps.
Did you punish them for screaming or not wanting to stop? What do you expect. You let them play for several hours when they are not used to it. There is a balance between not letting them play at all and with limits.
I have found that if you tell the kids ahead of time what the expectations are, it's much better.
If you park your kid in front of a TV or computer I would tend to agree with you. That being said, just because a kid watches TV or plays on an electronic device doesn't mean they have no imagination. My kid is 19 months. She picks up remote controls, fake phones, and mega-legos and pretends they are phones. She puts them up to her ear and pretends she is talking to someone. She places anything on her head..pie tins....scarfs.. and it becomes a hat. She holds her baby dolls and puts pacifiers in their mouths. She clearly has an imagination. She also has a Ipad and she watches TV too.
by Anonymous - Original PosterJanuary 11, 2013 at 1:00 PM
Did I say I was perfect? No... but I don't use electronics for them. They can play outside, play with the toys in the basement, read a book, write, color, play with play dough, create something with glue and scissors or do any number of helpful chores and things around the house. I'd much rather be chasing them around the house because they are getting into things, then let them zone out with an electronic item on my couch. The price of trying to keep track of them all day is worth it. I don't always suceed, but I'm not about to give up and squat them in front of a computer/TV all day.
Oddly enough, LOTS of parents for the last 100 years have been raising their kids without electronics. It's not a difficult concept. And I don't see it as a sign of perfection or fantastic parenting. I see it as common sense.
Ya.. they sneak it. At night when everyone is sleeping- or they'll get up earlier than us and grab it then. They never watch an entire movie or TV show before they get caught. I'd say... maybe 5 minutes in or less.
Netflix is really easy. You find the bright red app, touch it, and it opens up. They find what looks colorful and fun, and touch the screen again. SUPER complicated stuff here.
You're so perfect yet your kids are alone long enough to sneak a tablet and watch a movie. Riiiight lady. They also know how to work them and get on Netflix....yet you never let them use them.