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is this way out of line to ask? Update in BLUE
January 9, 2013 at 2:01 AM

*****Yes the dogs are mine, but they are just as much mine as they are my dads.  When i moved out, my dad didnt want to part with them or split them up.  Also two of them are older dogs, my yorkie is ten and my shep/ab mix is 9. 

 

I have three dogs that live with my parents.  (a shep/lab, cocker spaniel and a yorkie) they are great dogs, they get along with people and eachother.  They adore all of us too.  And my dad is a mush, he treats thm like they are his other children. 

anyways, my brother and sil want to ttc she just had a miscarriage but she def wants to try again sooner rather than later.  they live with my parents in the basement apartment.  the dogs do NOT go down there to the basement apartment. 

my sil isnt an animal lover.  she asked my brother to ask our parents if they would reconsider rehoming th dogs so that when they do have a baby she wouldnt have to worry about the three of them not accepting the baby.  my brother mentioned it to my dad and i agree with my dad. he told him hell no, if you are that concerned move out.  now my mom is split down the middle. she goes back and forth on how to feel.

is it just me or was that really messed up of her to ask to get rid of the dogs, all of them we had since puppies. 

***ETA***  my dad is still sticking to his guns.  my mom said shes staying out of it.  its between them.  i told my dad that my boyfriend and i can take on the dogs and my dad said no, that they are staying where they are.  and if it ever did come down to that i better make room for my dad because he doesnt want to let the dogs go.  my sil hasnt spoken to my parents now in a few days and because she hasnt my brother hasnt made an attempt to speak to them either.  i think thats why my mom is going back and forth, she doesnt want to see her kids mad at her. 

 

*****UPDATE***** My sil went crying to my mom saying how she wants my parents to be a part of the babies life when its here.  but with three dogs she wont be able to bring the baby around.  she doesnt trust dogs around young kids and infants.  so she cried, to my mother who caved in and said she will do what she can. so my mom brought it up to my dad today and my dad laughed and said that my mom can move in with them when they get a new place away from the dogs.  my dad also made it clear that letting them move into the basement apartment was to help them save up $ and get on their feet.  not to stay there forever and make it their own.   my dads done with kids in the house, he raised his.  both my brother and sil arent speaking to my dad.  they didnt even wish him a happy birthday over this. 

Update:  My brother told my mom that if they move out under these circumcstances that he talked to his wife and they agreed my family and i will have no contact with their future children.  how fucked up is that? so my mom doesnt want that to happen and she and my dad are at eachothers throats over the dogs.

 

my brother and my dad had a sit down talk today. my brother is defending his wifes wishes.  so my dad told him maybe its time for them to look for their own place.  then my brother drops the bomb on them, my sil quit her job a week after her miscarriage.  she hasnt returned to work.  they can afford to pay my parents rent because its so cheap, but not rent elsewhere.  shes looking for a job, and under my brothers insurance and all.  so my dad said well you have a few choices, tell her to take any job and get out of the house, stay here, and accept that if you have a baby, the dogs stay, or keep it wrapped up til you get out on your own becaise im not changing my mind over this.  crazy crazy!

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  • angie729
    January 9, 2013 at 2:05 AM

    That was wrong of her to ask. That is their home and they have been kind enough to allow them to live there. They need to get their own place before ttc if they are that worried about the dogs.

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    January 9, 2013 at 2:05 AM
    This will get ugly
  • gemikris82
    January 9, 2013 at 2:05 AM

    Quoting Mychele:

    Wow. That's just bold. I don't like people like that. Like the world revolves around them. Tell your dad to stick to his guns. It's his house. She can move out.

    i agree. and im close with my sil but now i just want to slap her silly. i love thos dogs too
  • got2monsters
    January 9, 2013 at 2:06 AM
    hmm, well if the dogs were there first and shes changing the situation then yes shes out of line.


    Quoting gemikris82:



    Quoting got2monsters:

    why are they ttc if they dont even have thier own house to make those kind of decisions in. shes out of line.


    they live in the basement apartment.  its a 2 bedroom. 


  • Jers.
    by Jers.
    January 9, 2013 at 2:07 AM

    What nerve - She had no right!  Would she ask a landlord outside the family to do that?

    That is their home - your sil is a renter - so she needs to leave if she is uncomortable.

  • Aishamusty
    January 9, 2013 at 2:07 AM

    Am not an animal person  but I still feel she was way out of line to have asked 

    Quoting got2monsters:

    why are they ttc if they dont even have thier own house to make those kind of decisions in. shes out of line.


  • Butterfly1108
    January 9, 2013 at 2:08 AM

    Yea...she has no right those are HIS fur babies.

    I see your SIL point but no she can not live there and try to kick family members out too. 

  • gemikris82
    January 9, 2013 at 2:09 AM


    Quoting Jers.:

    What nerve - She had no right!  Would she ask a landlord outside the family to do that?

    That is their home - your sil is a renter - so she needs to leave if she is uncomortable.

    i know and my mom goes back and forth on this because she would love to see her grandchild all the time. but wtf

  • elzingah36
    January 9, 2013 at 2:09 AM
    IMO it is way out of line to ask. I hope your father sticks to his guns and keeps his foot down. Are they your dogs or your parents?.I'm a little confused who the dogs belong to.
  • got2monsters
    January 9, 2013 at 2:09 AM
    im not either, i dont have pets for a reason, i dont like them. but none the less, its still not her place to ask others to make those changes for her. thats selfish.


    Quoting Aishamusty:

    Am not an animal person  but I still feel she was way out of line to have asked 


    Quoting got2monsters:

    why are they ttc if they dont even have thier own house to make those kind of decisions in. shes out of line.



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