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gemikris82
is this way out of line to ask? Update in BLUE
January 9, 2013 at 2:01 AM

*****Yes the dogs are mine, but they are just as much mine as they are my dads.  When i moved out, my dad didnt want to part with them or split them up.  Also two of them are older dogs, my yorkie is ten and my shep/ab mix is 9. 

 

I have three dogs that live with my parents.  (a shep/lab, cocker spaniel and a yorkie) they are great dogs, they get along with people and eachother.  They adore all of us too.  And my dad is a mush, he treats thm like they are his other children. 

anyways, my brother and sil want to ttc she just had a miscarriage but she def wants to try again sooner rather than later.  they live with my parents in the basement apartment.  the dogs do NOT go down there to the basement apartment. 

my sil isnt an animal lover.  she asked my brother to ask our parents if they would reconsider rehoming th dogs so that when they do have a baby she wouldnt have to worry about the three of them not accepting the baby.  my brother mentioned it to my dad and i agree with my dad. he told him hell no, if you are that concerned move out.  now my mom is split down the middle. she goes back and forth on how to feel.

is it just me or was that really messed up of her to ask to get rid of the dogs, all of them we had since puppies. 

***ETA***  my dad is still sticking to his guns.  my mom said shes staying out of it.  its between them.  i told my dad that my boyfriend and i can take on the dogs and my dad said no, that they are staying where they are.  and if it ever did come down to that i better make room for my dad because he doesnt want to let the dogs go.  my sil hasnt spoken to my parents now in a few days and because she hasnt my brother hasnt made an attempt to speak to them either.  i think thats why my mom is going back and forth, she doesnt want to see her kids mad at her. 

 

*****UPDATE***** My sil went crying to my mom saying how she wants my parents to be a part of the babies life when its here.  but with three dogs she wont be able to bring the baby around.  she doesnt trust dogs around young kids and infants.  so she cried, to my mother who caved in and said she will do what she can. so my mom brought it up to my dad today and my dad laughed and said that my mom can move in with them when they get a new place away from the dogs.  my dad also made it clear that letting them move into the basement apartment was to help them save up $ and get on their feet.  not to stay there forever and make it their own.   my dads done with kids in the house, he raised his.  both my brother and sil arent speaking to my dad.  they didnt even wish him a happy birthday over this. 

Update:  My brother told my mom that if they move out under these circumcstances that he talked to his wife and they agreed my family and i will have no contact with their future children.  how fucked up is that? so my mom doesnt want that to happen and she and my dad are at eachothers throats over the dogs.

 

my brother and my dad had a sit down talk today. my brother is defending his wifes wishes.  so my dad told him maybe its time for them to look for their own place.  then my brother drops the bomb on them, my sil quit her job a week after her miscarriage.  she hasnt returned to work.  they can afford to pay my parents rent because its so cheap, but not rent elsewhere.  shes looking for a job, and under my brothers insurance and all.  so my dad said well you have a few choices, tell her to take any job and get out of the house, stay here, and accept that if you have a baby, the dogs stay, or keep it wrapped up til you get out on your own becaise im not changing my mind over this.  crazy crazy!

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  • gemikris82
    January 9, 2013 at 2:38 AM


    Quoting krayzbabylove:

    Completely out of line. Who does that? Seriously!?


    besides her lol i never met anyone who would say such a thing.  i mean if my parents had to move in with my brother and her in their house thats one thing. but thats not the case. asking my parents to do that is fucked up.  my dad put in a 2 bedroom apartment in the basement for thim. he worked on it by himself, so they can live comfortably and not have to worry about rent or anything, then she asks this. im mad.

  • gemikris82
    January 9, 2013 at 2:41 AM


    Quoting bustybee:

    1. are they family dogs or your dogs?

    2. why don't your sil and bro have their own place yet?


    there the family dogs.  i call them mine, im the one who adopted 2 of them. but they belong to all of us. 

    and my brother and sil live in a 2 bedroom basement apartment.  they pretty much have their own space.  they have their own enterence, kitchen, bathrrom, lr and bedrooms. they dont share any kind of space

  • bustybee
    January 9, 2013 at 2:43 AM

    huh, then imo, she has no right to ask. after all your parents are technically her landlords and she has her own space anyways. they are just dogs. not rabid bears.

    Quoting gemikris82:

     

    Quoting bustybee:

    1. are they family dogs or your dogs?

    2. why don't your sil and bro have their own place yet?


    there the family dogs.  i call them mine, im the one who adopted 2 of them. but they belong to all of us. 

    and my brother and sil live in a 2 bedroom basement apartment.  they pretty much have their own space.  they have their own enterence, kitchen, bathrrom, lr and bedrooms. they dont share any kind of space


  • alexakaym
    January 9, 2013 at 2:44 AM

    If they want to make the rules they should get their own place.

  • Devious333
    January 9, 2013 at 2:44 AM
    I posted about my MIL's dog snapping at my baby and the women on here acted like it wasn't a big deal. I don't like dd at their house if I'm not there because he did snap at her once, knocked her over and scratched her face. He's bit a kid before and drew blood--the kid didn't do anything to the dog, I watched it happen.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I would say no to your SIL unless she owned the house.

    My MIL refused to put her dog out or in another room when we came over. We are dog people, but her dog kept trying to visciously bite my baby, and I would have to hold my son above shoulder level the entire time we were at their house while the dog jumped on me snarling and snapping at my newborn. My MIL would just say that her dog was sweet and didnt mean it. So I know my Mil would agree with your dad too. On a positive note, the dog now seems to be over this psycho period.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    January 9, 2013 at 2:45 AM
    That's selfish in my op! The dogs do not go into the apt anyways.
  • bellawomen
    January 9, 2013 at 2:46 AM
    Sorry, if anyone is rehoming it would be her!
  • sheymann
    January 9, 2013 at 2:51 AM

    Way out of line, even if they are renting the apartment, the dogs don't go down there. To me it's like asking a family member to board their dog while you're visiting because you don't want the dog around your child. Unless they have an allergy, suck it up or stay in your own house!

  • 3mommyandwifey
    January 9, 2013 at 2:52 AM
    She should worry about it if it was her house. They shouldn't have babies while living with parents. Time to grow up.
  • TranquilMind
    January 9, 2013 at 2:53 AM

    Why do YOUR dogs live with your parents?  I don't get it.  Do you also live with your parents? It doesn't sound like it.

    If you have three dogs, take them to your place.  Problem solved.   If you are not allowed to have them because you rent, then get rid of them.

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