Back story: my husband and my 2 young kids live with my MIL and DHs 2 teenage siblings. Yes I know this is a problem in itself and we are working on moving out. Anyway, so my MIL and me alternate weeks when we cook. This week is mine. We are low on money so I'm doing easy simple dinners. I said something like so I'm doing rutabaga egg nests and bacon tomorrow. Basically the rutabaga is hash browns. The 15 yr old girl said "ew that's nasty I'm not eating that." I was like do you even know what a rutabaga is?! You like potatoes don't you? Tastes just like it but more nutrients. She made another comment under her breath and I said "ya know what?! Why don't you make dinner for once?" She again bak talked me and said "ha I'm not making dinner that's stupid." Ohhhhhj giiiirl. Lol I was furious. Of course her mother did NOTHING. As usual. I always am getting lip from her.
So last night I was thinking about it. I was like what would I do if my kids acted that way when they are older. Got it! Give them $15-20 no more than $20. She has to plan out a dinner for one night. Take her to the store but she has no help with finding the ingredients. Catch is it has to accommodate the other sibling who is dairy and gluten intolerant. Then after she gets the stuff pay for it with the money. Come home and prepare it by 6pm. Set the table. Put the food on plates to serve. Then after dinner clean up the kitchen exactly how it should be done.
That's how me and my MIL do it. 6pm dinner and whoever cooks cleans.
Is this harsh? I think it would open her eyes and appreciate how much we actually do to plan an prepare the meals.
Should I propose this to her mother?
***EDIT*** guess I have l CLARIFY. I am NOT trying to parent her!! It was gonna be a suggestion to her mom. And I'm not telling her how to parent!! It was just an "eye opener" kinda thing.
I'm not gonna say anything to her about it, BUT I'm not gonna let some 15 year old best disrespect me. Also! It had nothing to do with the actual food I was making. It was her attitude towards the whole thing. This is NOT the first time she has mouthed off to me. Her mom has yelled at her before about it. And that was without me saying anything. It's just I was always brought up to respects elders especially when they cook dinner for you. My daughter granted she is 4 says ew I don't like this.. I immediately jump on her about it and say no that's not nice you don't say that.
Maybe what I said to her was smarting off but I don't give a damn. This girl has no respect for anyone in this house not just me and I'm not gonna let it slide!!
That's not harsh whatsoever. That's teaching her lifeskills and that is a very appropriate way to deal with her attitude.
by Anonymous 2
January 8, 2013 at 5:20 PM
It's not your child, it's not your home, just let it go! And $20 for one dinner isn't that hard to do!
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
January 8, 2013 at 5:21 PM
Do you think it's ridiculous though tht now that she is being a snob about it I'm having to rearrange my meal plans and add another dinner? Don't you think she should have to make her own dinner or something? I'm sick of her getting away with it.
I think so too. It sucks!! Those kids do absolutely nothing to help out in this house. Their mother still makes their lunches for them. They are 15 and 18.
Leave its not your kid.
And secondly someone else should clean up since you cook