Mom Confessions
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Sounds like you need to get out of the house more.
I get the arguing and screaming and squabbling over toys. I have 3 boys who do this daily. I have two 4yr olds who are still trying to negotiate playing and having their turn and verbalizing this with each other and older brother so I am usually in the midst of it all referining (sp) it all.
Do you have a MOPs group near you? MOPs ( link)is Mothers with Preschoolers. My old group, which I might start back up this fall, met 2 times a month for 2 hours. My kids were taken care of and I got to relax and talk with other mamas and have a snack and talk about so many things. Check the link I shared. You can see if there is a MOPs near you. The closest one for me is 15 mins away but so worth it!
What you are going through, we all go through it.
Try this website, No time for flashcards, for some great ideas to do with your kids.
Also, remember, its winter. We all hate being cooped up in the house. Once its warm enough outside, I notice a huge difference in my kids. They are so happy to be outside they forget to argue with each other!! Its like the sunshine and warm breeze washes the stink off them and they are happy!
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Sounds like my life
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You know, sometimes kids just are not fun. lol Mine are 7 years apart and they still fuss like you would not believe. They are lovely sweet little kids, but sometimes they make momma want to rip her hair out. lol Do you have anyone that would help you out and keep them so you can have a day to yourself?
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Good advice, and awesome links!! Thanks!
Quoting starbuckmom03:
Sounds like you need to get out of the house more.
I get the arguing and screaming and squabbling over toys. I have 3 boys who do this daily. I have two 4yr olds who are still trying to negotiate playing and having their turn and verbalizing this with each other and older brother so I am usually in the midst of it all referining (sp) it all.
Do you have a MOPs group near you? MOPs ( link)is Mothers with Preschoolers. My old group, which I might start back up this fall, met 2 times a month for 2 hours. My kids were taken care of and I got to relax and talk with other mamas and have a snack and talk about so many things. Check the link I shared. You can see if there is a MOPs near you. The closest one for me is 15 mins away but so worth it!
What you are going through, we all go through it.
Try this website, No time for flashcards, for some great ideas to do with your kids.
Also, remember, its winter. We all hate being cooped up in the house. Once its warm enough outside, I notice a huge difference in my kids. They are so happy to be outside they forget to argue with each other!! Its like the sunshine and warm breeze washes the stink off them and they are happy!
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Winter is probably the worst because its so cold to go out and if you dont like the cold it makes it harder to make yourself
Then to do anything inside cost money. Like a no win
Best thing to do for now is to get together with anoher mom with kids.
This can get boring too, because those things turn out to be about the same subjects when you talk, but the kids are entertained for a couple of hrs. Or maybe the kids need a certain schedual.
You may be one of those moms who need to have outside contact. A part time job is a good idea. Or go back to work.
There is nothing wrong with that. It means you are independant and like/need variety in your life. Kids will be kids and thats what they do. Its your surroundings, is what you may need to change up -
You're welcome!
I know what its like to be in the OPs position. Its not fun. Thats why I found my MOPs group or well, they found me through my friend! But its so worth getting out of the house and meeting with other moms who totally understand what you are going through. To be able to vent or even getting a reasuring hug from time to time is huge!
Another poster mentioned getting someone to watch your dd's so you can have some time for yourself. Please look into that! Even 2 hours a week is big. Time to wander around Target, or sit at a park and read a book, go get a coffee or soda or even have lunch by yourself <----- HUGE deal for me!!
OP: Another thought. Do you have any extra money to be used for childcare? The reason I say this is there are programs called Parents day out or Moms day out. Google those for your area. I was able to put my oldest in a program, one day a week for 6 hours for, at the time, $20 a day. I was able to go to dr appt, shop, clean my house, or just be refreshed and ready to go again and be a mom again when I picked up my ds.
Quoting lilfishbigocean:
Good advice, and awesome links!! Thanks!
Quoting starbuckmom03:
Sounds like you need to get out of the house more.
I get the arguing and screaming and squabbling over toys. I have 3 boys who do this daily. I have two 4yr olds who are still trying to negotiate playing and having their turn and verbalizing this with each other and older brother so I am usually in the midst of it all referining (sp) it all.
Do you have a MOPs group near you? MOPs ( link)is Mothers with Preschoolers. My old group, which I might start back up this fall, met 2 times a month for 2 hours. My kids were taken care of and I got to relax and talk with other mamas and have a snack and talk about so many things. Check the link I shared. You can see if there is a MOPs near you. The closest one for me is 15 mins away but so worth it!
What you are going through, we all go through it.
Try this website, No time for flashcards, for some great ideas to do with your kids.
Also, remember, its winter. We all hate being cooped up in the house. Once its warm enough outside, I notice a huge difference in my kids. They are so happy to be outside they forget to argue with each other!! Its like the sunshine and warm breeze washes the stink off them and they are happy!
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I'm watching you. Nice mug.
Quoting lilfishbigocean:
Good advice, and awesome links!! Thanks!
Quoting starbuckmom03:
Sounds like you need to get out of the house more.
I get the arguing and screaming and squabbling over toys. I have 3 boys who do this daily. I have two 4yr olds who are still trying to negotiate playing and having their turn and verbalizing this with each other and older brother so I am usually in the midst of it all referining (sp) it all.
Do you have a MOPs group near you? MOPs ( link)is Mothers with Preschoolers. My old group, which I might start back up this fall, met 2 times a month for 2 hours. My kids were taken care of and I got to relax and talk with other mamas and have a snack and talk about so many things. Check the link I shared. You can see if there is a MOPs near you. The closest one for me is 15 mins away but so worth it!
What you are going through, we all go through it.
Try this website, No time for flashcards, for some great ideas to do with your kids.
Also, remember, its winter. We all hate being cooped up in the house. Once its warm enough outside, I notice a huge difference in my kids. They are so happy to be outside they forget to argue with each other!! Its like the sunshine and warm breeze washes the stink off them and they are happy!
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You're not a bad mother. You just need a tool. Get into Love and Logic to find a few great ways to put the kibosh on the fights. Even at 4 and 2 they can learn to handle disagreements themselves.
You don't have to put yourself into the role of referee to this stuff. Seriously. Love and Logic. Look into it. It saved my sanity with little squabblers.
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This is why I work lol. -
It will get easier hang in there i have 4 within 4 years of eachother so i know where you are coming from