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Devious333
Dh wants to go to a movie tomorrow
January 5, 2013 at 5:45 PM
We both want to see The Hobbit, we haven't been on a date together since May of last year, but I don't like leaving dd (or even ds, really) at dh's parents house. Dd is 9 months, is crawling and will find stuff to put in her mouth. Their house isn't child proof, they don't have a gate for their stairs, she can get into the kitchen and pick stuff off the floor (they don't sweep often), and when we were over there a couple weeks ago, their little dog growled and snapped at dd over food on the floor (he's not a kid dog and even growls at ds), scratched/bruised her face. So when we were over there on New Years Eve, I didn't get to hang out and talk to adults...I was stuck making sure dd didn't get bit by the dog or pick something off the floor because my nieces are pigs and leave food and stuff all over the place. Dh and everyone was playing a board game and, as usual, I didn't get to participate...I tried but I kept having to stop dd from going into the kitchen or from going near the dog.

Anyway. I told dh I wanted his mom to come over here, mostly because of dd, but ds is allergic to something in their house. Everytime he goes over there his eyes get red and puffy, he sneezes, coughs, etc. He has allergies anyway but he's never like that at home. We go over to their house for holidays and when we eat dinner with them. They rarely come to our house.

MIL won't put her dog in her room while dd is there because her dog retaliates by shitting or pissing somewhere. I don't go anywhere or do anything unless dh is at home with the kids or we all go together...and hiring a babysitter isn't an option because I don't know anyone here and I don't like people who aren't family watching my kids. MIL told dh today that she would like it if the kids went to their house tomorrow so she could do laundry...so idk if she'll come over to watch them. I told dh just to go the movie with his dad or something. I could tell he was kind of frustrated when I said that but I don't want dd getting hurt.

How would you feel about this? And I don't think I'm overreacting...I don't like the idea of my 9 month old choking, falling down stairs or being mauled by a dog, knowing these possibilities, would you feel the same?

Eta: Lol some of you think I'm making up excuses, yet a lot of women on here are SAHMs because they don't trust daycares or anyone to watch their kids. How am I any different than you?

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  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1
    January 5, 2013 at 5:48 PM
    No, I think you are overreacting. How bad do you want some alone time with your husband? You don't like your family option, yet you don't want to use someone who's not family....
  • Devious333
    January 5, 2013 at 5:50 PM
    I don't know anyone where I live. It wouldn't be smart to put an ad in the paper and ask someone. I don't see why she can't come over for 3 hours. Their house isn't kid proof, like I said.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    No, I think you are overreacting. How bad do you want some alone time with your husband? You don't like your family option, yet you don't want to use someone who's not family....
  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1
    January 5, 2013 at 5:51 PM
    Well if she won't, then you have to decide how bad you want a date with your husband.


    Quoting Devious333:

    I don't know anyone where I live. It wouldn't be smart to put an ad in the paper and ask someone. I don't see why she can't come over for 3 hours. Their house isn't kid proof, like I said.



    Quoting Anonymous:

    No, I think you are overreacting. How bad do you want some alone time with your husband? You don't like your family option, yet you don't want to use someone who's not family....

  • PaperClip811
    January 5, 2013 at 5:52 PM

     tell her your washing machine works :o)

    yes I would feel the same

  • Devious333
    January 5, 2013 at 5:52 PM
    I am aware of that. It's more him than me who wants to go.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    Well if she won't, then you have to decide how bad you want a date with your husband.




    Quoting Devious333:

    I don't know anyone where I live. It wouldn't be smart to put an ad in the paper and ask someone. I don't see why she can't come over for 3 hours. Their house isn't kid proof, like I said.





    Quoting Anonymous:

    No, I think you are overreacting. How bad do you want some alone time with your husband? You don't like your family option, yet you don't want to use someone who's not family....

  • Devious333
    January 5, 2013 at 5:53 PM
    That's what I told dh lol. She can't have that much laundry. Her house went from 6 people to 2 this last summer.

    Quoting PaperClip811:

     tell her your washing machine works :o)


    yes I would feel the same

  • Not_A_Native
    January 5, 2013 at 5:54 PM

    Not exactly.  Since your family is obviously not great at babysitting, I would get a sitter.  Just being family doesn't make them better babysitters.

  • Anonymous 2
    by Anonymous 2
    January 5, 2013 at 5:55 PM
    I think you need to get to work to find a babysitter. relationships require dedication and work. you can't just tell dh no and expect to have a strong marriage.
  • TDMumof3
    January 5, 2013 at 5:56 PM
    This could be her payment for watching the kids





    Quoting PaperClip811:

     tell her your washing machine works :o)



    yes I would feel the same

  • Devious333
    January 5, 2013 at 5:56 PM
    I don't know anyone, that's my issue. I especially don't trust someone with my 9 month old. MIL does just fine with kids but it's their house and stupid dog I have an issue with.

    Quoting Not_A_Native:

    Not exactly.  Since your family is obviously not great at babysitting, I would get a sitter.  Just being family doesn't make them better babysitters.

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