I have used my son as an excuse for being late, missing appointments.
I also use him as an excuse to not date at all. It is partially true that I don't have time and I want to focus on my kid. I also don't date because I'm self conscience of the weight I've put on (I'm 260lbs) because I don't want to co-parent and because I'm gay and not sure how to approach that topic with my son.
by AnonymousJanuary 5 at 5:51 PM
As for your friend what a way to realize you're a lesbian! I've known women with 4 or 5 kids come out of the closet so it's not that unusal anymore.
I just joined up today but I can't imagine that is a unique story. Probably hundreds just like that. I've met a lot of gay people who had the same basic story. One woman I am friends with told me as a young adult she dated married men. It wasnt until she was nearly 30 that she realized she was dating them because they were essentially unavailable.
Oh I see. I feel like I've read your story before in this group.
I think I always knew but didn't admit it to myself and did what was expected of me and had a boyfriend. He was an awful boyfriend because I saw all men as unappealing so wasn't too picky. Our sex life was awful because I was completley turned off by him. He was abusive and controlling and we didn't have a computer or internet as part of that whole lovely package. When I left I bought a computer and discovered porn lol. Aaand self discovery achieved. lol That's it in a nutshell
What made you realize you were gay?
I didn't realize I was gay until after I had my son
How'd you have a kid if you're gay? Adoption?
January 5 at 5:52 PMSame. I also use DHs work.
to get out of staying somewhere I don't wanna be yes.....
by AnonymousJanuary 5 at 5:54 PM100% agree. My school charged us $5 for the music.
We paid a $75 participation fee for the year but solo & ensemble was another $20 which we get half back if DD turns in her music & practice cd. That $20 should have been part of the participation fee imo!
Geez. When I was in band, solo & ensemble was voluntary and cheap as balls. How much is it now?
I have when it came to why I didn't feel I could afford to pay for something school related (solo & ensemble contest for my D who is in orchestra- it's required yet was not in the participation fee paid at the beginning of the year). I flat out told the teacher I'm a single mom of 5 & had I known at the beginning of the year this was required I would have budgeted!
by bustybeeJanuary 5 at 7:26 PM
I have... but then I've also used them as an excuse to do things