im 21 had a baby a year ago.
me and my family never got along,actually moved out for three years,all my senior year and two after that) WHEN I WAS 17 AND IN HIGH SCHOOL,I MOVED HOME AT 20 WHEN I GAVE BIRTH!
well i moved home for help with my daghter dad fights with my constantly.i got a job working nights so im home with my daughter during the day,som im always tired.i support us except rent and bills.i help with foodwell we got into it and he told me to leave by the 7th of january,and they were taking my daughter when i do.i cant live without my daughter.she is my entire world.the law the will side with them because im in a shelter,even though their home is nowhere near fit for a kid and they are just going to stick her in daycare.im upset cause im going to have to quit my only job,no car,no friends to stay with
i may lose my only reason for being alive.what do i do,i dont want to lose her...im in florida
(this is what i mean by fighting,but its gotten worse)my father came in from work at 1030 tonight,looked at the trash and yelled at me because i lets her play with crap...in reality it was his dogs that put the shit there,there was teeth marks and my mother had been home knowing full well my daughter was in our room the whole time or in her pack and play in the living room,but wouldnt say anything so me and my father got into it.because he accuses my daughter of doing somthing and then makes up excuses for it when there are teeth mark
so last monday was the night i was told to leave,we fought for over and hour and they told me.we will take it week by week,get help de(i from a doctor(iv always thought i was bipolor) and change the "additude".
they didnt say anything bout taking my daughter,but did ask where i was going and told them somewhere where the baby is safe.
im in school(started this week),and been going to work like i need.im looking for ways to get money(egg donation,pell refund and income tax cause i need a car before i can get an apartment or new job)
thank you so much for everyone that has helped me out with this.if anything happens,i will update.thank you
January 1 at 2:18 AM
your parents cant just take care her. If its the bio dad fighting yes he could for those reasons, however grandparents dont have many rights.
by bustybeeJanuary 1 at 2:19 AM
I don't see how they can just keep your kid if they are the ones kicking you out of their house...
you can take your daughter to the shelter with you but before you live without letting anyone knowing call a womans shelter they will help you find a place to stay and a way for you to still work you can look up some around in your area and children serives will help you to if you ever need to talk you can message me i've been through what your going through it will be ok. just stay positive and keep your head up
by AnonymousJanuary 1 at 2:20 AM
start calling shelters now. see if they have any openings for a mother and child. take her with you. thats what i'd do. unless they have legal custody or guardianship, they have no claim over your daughter
Living in a shelter is not reason to lose your kid. My mom lived in a shelter with me AND my older sister in Florida when I was a baby. A friend of mine lives in one right now with two small boys and my sister JUST moved out of one with all 5 of her kids. They CANNOT take her for that reason. Call the shelter and make arrangements for you and your daughter and leave. They can't stop you and they can't keep her. If they try, it's custodial interference and you CAN have them arrested. They have to prove you unfit and incapable of caring for her. Being in a shelter doesn't mean that. A lot of shelters help single mothers get better jobs and into homes as well. Good luck, mama, and do not let them take your baby. They don't have any rights to.
umm they can't just take your kid because you're in a shelter.
Not every CPS worker is out to take a child away, they help.
I had a friend who lived inside their van for a month and someone called CPS, the lady came, she didnt say she was taking her two sons away, instead they paid for a month worth of a hotel room, just long enough for her to get a good job and on their feet.
Her husband left her and her kids when the going got hard and now she works three jobs and does it all on her own, I know you can too!
by lalabooshJanuary 1 at 2:24 AMThat sucks! Now is the time to ask for help. Find a shelter and a social worker tomorrow if you can. Good luck.
by Anonymous - Original PosterJanuary 1 at 2:24 AM
see where i live at this moment its a 30 minute drive to work,all the shelters are 30 minutes away,so an hour to work with no vehicle,and no money saved for anything.the county doesnt have money for ub daycare even though i applied
January 1 at 2:25 AMThey can't take your baby. Call women's shelters around your area...they will help you.