We have been divorced a year. A couple of weeks ago he changed his Facebook status to in a relationship with ... Well today I asked him to come over when he had time to fix some things around my house. He owns the house the kids and I live in. After he finished i asked if he wanted to stay and eat , have a couple drinks and make the calendar for next month. (For visitation we make our own) he said yes of course and we had a couple shots. We like to take shots and make toasts. Well one thing led to another and we slept together. Funny thing is we haven't fucked in a year and he was a lot better than I remember. Anyway, I'd never tell him that was my plan all along. For some reason I can't stand the thought of him moving on.
He just texted me "Missed your ass! Are you gonna call jaela"
Been there, done that, regretted it later, will never do it again. I can't say I don't think of him when I need to take care of things myself (after all he was the only guy I had slept with for the past 17 years), but I don't want to open that can of emotional worms ever again.