I am so overwhelmed with homework and finals, but this does not matter to him. He thinks he does enough by providing for us, which I am very thankful for. I would really like more help with atleast taking care of the kids, but as soon as he gets home he eats dinner sits on the couch and goes to sleep. If he doesn't fall asleep, he wants me to stop doing what I am doing or gets mad because I am not paying attention to him while im studying.
I don't know what to do anymore, I am trying to keep up with everything but as of right now my house is a mess because theres just not enough hours in a day to do everything that needs to be done.
Sometimes im in the worst mood ever, and he just does not get why even if I tell him. I am becoming depressed and feel like theres no way out but to quit school....
I am just venting, sorry for all the typos btw...
by Anonymous - Original PosterDecember 14, 2012 at 2:49 AMBump
by Anonymous - Original PosterDecember 14, 2012 at 2:53 AMYes I have and he always gets defensive about it, he says he does enough or if I make him do something he will be mad the whole damn time.
Don't quit school
Have you talked to him....no yelling or arguing.....just calmly explain how you are feeling???
Sorry Dear that sounds Horrible. I would try to talk to him and tell him that you need help with the house work or with the kids that you can not do it all. Good luck and if he does not listen when you talk maybe write him a letter and see how he responds just try to be nonconfrontational about it so it doesnt start a fight just explain that you could really use some help so you dont waste all the money going to school because you need time to study so you dont fail. Good luck
draw up a schedule, in 24 hour time. put your name in one column, his in another, and each kid. write down from start to finish what your day and everyone's day is right now from start to finish. next do another one for you with your day if you did what you already do + forgotten chores/homework + time for dh. ask him when you get time to shit, eat, and wipe your ass. then *hopefully* work with him to create a balanced schedule between the 2 of you + maybe giving some chores to the children old enough to do chores