I plan on putting the boys in multiple classes ( hip hop dance class..because well its the most boy dance class and come kn, when they are older girls will love that they can dance ;) hahaha!)
A class for a musical instrument (of their choice)
A self defense class ( judo/boxing/tikwondo etc)
& a min. of one sport (again their choice)
My reason being to keep them busy. All of these will be good outlets & a way to form friendships...plus if they make it on a school team they are less likely to be bullied & will have to keep good grades . I plan on the self defense for three reasons..1 they will know legally they can not put their hands on another person as well as if they really took to it they would avoid most bad doings (drugs..underage drinking..because lets gace it you can talk until your blue in the face and some kids will still try ..key word some!) ...2. Most kids wont want to start a fight with them because they know they had some training..& 3 should a kid go after them if need be they can defend themselves.
& no i will not force my boys to stay in this programs etc if they are miserable in them they can drop them.
S/o thinks only a#%holes/douchebags do those things and that i will be turning them into that, i said im doing whats best for them... Yours guys thoughts?( this should be fun ).
He had a hardtime in highschool with the guys who played sports etc aka the "jocky" type guys (he was a computer nerd, graduated with an i.t. trade ). I told him Id rather the boys be a "jocky" person and not bully someone ( they will be in big trouble if they do ) & stick up for the kids being bullied then be bullied themselves. He seems to think they cant be "jocky" & a nice person at the same time.
What is your S/O afraid of exactly? Kids that are too busy to get in trouble are wonderful! :) I say do it-and tell your kids to have fun!
My ds (11) is in dance, currently in boot camp training for his black belt, plays the sax, and has tried baseball, soccer, basketball, swimming, and gymnastics.
Best thing I could have ever done for him. He's a ladies charmer, very sociable, intelligent (music is great for that), and can kick someone's ass if needed but has been taught in MMA how to control the situation first.