My husband usually doesn't come to church with us because he is out of town or working. Today he was in town and not working but chose not to come with us because he wanted to spend some time with his friends who are visiting from out of town. Honestly, I don't care whether he comes to church with us or not, but it is a rather small, tight knit church and I do get asked every week where he is, how he's doing etc.
So this morning he told me and our kids that if anyone asked where he was that instead of saying he was visiting his friends just to say his flight had gotten delayed (he came home last night) and he couldn't make it. Once we were in the car, I told the kids that if they were asked where dad was, to tell the truth, he was visiting with friends from out of town. As far as I see it, there is nothing wrong with his reason for not attending church and I will not encourage my kids to lie, for their father (or for themselves) and especially not at church!
No, but he wouldn't ask me to either. Our friends would understand why he wouldn't be at church. Our own pastor will even tell you that those around you are often more important than physically going to church.