It wasn't a problem so much with one kid, but working with two or more is awful. I stayed home the last year (after I had the baby). Now its back to work. My job isn't even hard. One kid hates me because I lack the time or energy to hang out or take her to events etc, and the other I bearly get to see awake.
I absolutly hate my life. I wish I never had kids. Working sucks. Its just constant "go,go,go!" Before and after work. I don't have the energy to cook or clean. The house is a gross mess. The sink is full of dishes. I ended up failing my classes. I hate everything. SO helps when he can, but he works full time+.
I miss my days of planning nice meals for the family, the time I spent crawling on the floor with the little one, or taking her for walks. Now, I'm just constantly stressed (and starving). My feet are killing me. I love my kids, but I can't do this. Id rather be in a homeless shelter.
I work 6 days a week and time off isn't an option ( I would def take a day off if I could, don't even care about getting paid). No staying home isn't really an option, SO wants me working. I'm ready to roll over and die, this is awful.
Talk to him. If you want out so badly then he should love you enough to let you stay home.
by Anonymous 17
December 4, 2012 at 8:31 PM
I wouldn't say it is easier but it is definitely better.
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
December 4, 2012 at 8:32 PM
how can I "not being doing it right"? My kids are still alive and I haven't misplaced them. its all about having a plan and a schedule. the house was clean kids were well fed. Hell we even had time for fash cards and other learning activities. If I wanted time to go out with friends I could easily just wait till SO was home from work and kids were asleep. I was doing well in school.
Besides, I didn't say it was a cake walk easy, just easisER. After work, I still have to cook and clean etc..
If someone feels that being a sahm is easy then they aren't doing it right.