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I think my dh likes someone else UPDATE!!
by Anonymous
December 4, 2012 at 2:53 PM
Everyday when he gets home it's j did this and j said that!! And it's all day and all night. She's all I hear about. And anytime he has a problem he goes to her!! Wtf? They've only been working together for maybe three months.











**I have talked to him. He tells me I'm just being jealous that he only talks to her because he works with her. But he doesn't talk about his other coworkers nearly as much not even the ones he works closely with. I can't do anything without him bringing her up. I don't think he's cheating but I do think he likes her and I don't know what to do. He can't change his hours or anything like that. And I can't make him quit lol. So idk.**





*** Thank you ladies for all of your advice. I will try to talk to him again and see his reaction and try to get him to understand why I am so uncomfortable. I will also make sure I meet her. Thanks again for all of your advice***



**** I went to dh's work today for his lunch break but I didn't get to meet her until right before I left. She was kinda pretty but didn't look anything like me. I'm having dh invite her over for dinner one night so I can actually meet her. I also talked to him again last night. He said his usual she's just someone I work with. So I guess we'll see what happens.****

Replies

  • samanthastaatss
    December 4, 2012 at 3:08 PM

    Start talking about another guy and see how he likes it. 

  • SnapIt
    by SnapIt
    December 4, 2012 at 3:09 PM
    Mmmhmmmm
    Definitely!


    Quoting DuncansMommy:

    BIG RED FLAG!

  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
    December 4, 2012 at 3:09 PM
    I have not met her but dd and I should tomorrow. We were supposed to today but dd has a fever.

    Quoting AnonymousCoward:

    Have you met her?

    If yes: is she attractive?

    If no: have you had the opportunity to?

    If you have not had the chance to meet her, tell him you want to meet her, and see what his reaction is...

  • Nicoleb9
    December 4, 2012 at 3:09 PM
    Straight to hell with that. His life would be miserable as long as that crap is going on.
  • Anonymous 4
    by Anonymous 4
    December 4, 2012 at 3:10 PM

     well that kind of negates everything I said! I'm sorry mama! Talk to him about it though, I don't suggest snooping/spying to fix your problem. All that will do is piss him off.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I don't think she's who he spends all his time with. He's a mechanic and she's the service manager at the shop so he's always with the other mechanics as far as I know.

    Quoting Anonymous:

     could be a red flag....or she could be the one person he spends the most time with at work. I spend the most time with a man at work, and I do talk about him a lot to my fiance...nothing inappropriate going on, I just associate him with work while I'm talking about work, he comes up. Talk to him about it if you're uncomfortable. If it did bother my fiance I would stop talking about him and make a consious effort to respect my fiance's opinion and feelings.

     

  • Anonymous 7
    by Anonymous 7
    December 4, 2012 at 3:10 PM

    If he's using her to confide in about his personal problems, and is incessantly talking about her like that, they yeah, you are not being jealous. My dad did the same thing. Him and the other woman "confided" in each other about their problems, spouses etc. and I distinctly remember siting at the dinner table hearing him talk about this woman. He would tell us things she said that made him laugh, thinking we would find them funny too, and a bunch of other crap about her.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    That's what my dh says :( it's always I just work with her. Or stop being so jealous.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    Yep, sounds like it. My dad pulled that with my mom. He talked about her all the time, and when my mom was was like "You sure do seem to talk about her a lot." he would get defensive and say "I'm around her at work, and she's just someone I talk to!" 

    The ugly truth showed it's face shortly after. He was infatuated with her, and just thought she was oh, so great, fun, funny, sexy, etc. etc. and was wanting to leave my mom for her. It all backfired. 


  • Kitschy
    by Kitschy
    December 4, 2012 at 3:11 PM

    WARNING! WARNING! 

  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
    December 4, 2012 at 3:11 PM
    I have checked his phone. He doesn't even have any numbers I don't recognize. I'm not worried he's cheating now. Just that he likes her.

    Quoting Julee022:

    I say you need to do some spying.... aka like pick up his phone and check it while he's in the shower and maybe show up randomly to see him at work one day and see what his reaction is....

  • Anonymous 9
    by Anonymous 9
    December 4, 2012 at 3:12 PM
    My husband started out doing this. He was cheating with her. Trust your instincts.
  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
    December 4, 2012 at 3:13 PM
    I've checked his phone but I do that in front of him lol. We don't keep our phones or email private. I've tried talking to him though. He always gets frustrated :(

    Quoting Anonymous:

     well that kind of negates everything I said! I'm sorry mama! Talk to him about it though, I don't suggest snooping/spying to fix your problem. All that will do is piss him off.


    Quoting Anonymous:

    I don't think she's who he spends all his time with. He's a mechanic and she's the service manager at the shop so he's always with the other mechanics as far as I know.


    Quoting Anonymous:


     could be a red flag....or she could be the one person he spends the most time with at work. I spend the most time with a man at work, and I do talk about him a lot to my fiance...nothing inappropriate going on, I just associate him with work while I'm talking about work, he comes up. Talk to him about it if you're uncomfortable. If it did bother my fiance I would stop talking about him and make a consious effort to respect my fiance's opinion and feelings.


     

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