My mom lives a few hours away and we go visit a few times a year. Like every other month my dd and I go for the weekend.
Last time we went it was Thanksgiving. We got there and my mom needed some help getting ready. Okay sure no problem. I don't mind helping. But my sister who lives with my mom was sitting on her ass watching tv. The whole time my mom kept asking her to help. Finally I blew up and said if I can drive three hours and still help then she can help. She started talking about how much she works. I work too. PLUS keep up with my own home. She should be helping at my mom's house when she LIVES there.