So it is difficult for me to find other Mommy friends for various reasons--ages of parents, ages of kids, sex of kids, etc., but there is this little boy that my daughter grew up with basically and are really good friends, anyway, so we went to their house for a playdate and the snacks were just fully loaded with sugar and the lunch that she served consisted of mini hot dogs and bagel bites. I just always try to hit the 4 food groups with each meal and reduce the amount of sugar they get throughout the day.
Should I say something or just brush it off?
I did bring them water and snacks if they wanted something and planned on leaving before lunch but they pleaded with us to stay until the other kids arrived.
UPDATE: I got the point and usually stop reading after 20 replies.
I have the policy of in my house I feed you what I want, in your house you feed us what you want. (Allergies are the exception to this rule, we don't have any but some people do). It isn't like you are seeing them for hours every day. It is once in a while.
I think it would be good to let it go and just think of it as a treat for your kid. If it really bothers you maybe you could politely let the mother know that next time you would prefer having more healthy options
Maybe next time invite them for lunch to your house and make it a point to say that you try to be as healthy as you can with snacks. This way you are not putting her down but she might follow your lead a little bit.
One day of junk once in a while wont kill them. Moderation is the key here. I would let it go. No need to cause a problem when it's not that big of a deal. Bring some healthy alternatives, but bring enough for everyone, so you don't seem rude or ungreatful for the food being offered.