I am well educated on this specific subject.
You, a parent, should NOT be in an dental OP with your child at the time treatment is being done!!!!
**I was quite thrilled to see my post be a featured posted in Mom Confessions!**
There are several issues that have been addressed. I have tried to read as many responses as possible, but I am just too busy to read them all.
I may decide to post this as an actual update.
1. When I say "dental treatment." It's specifically speaking in regards to procedures that are defined as restorative and surgical. I do not mean x-rays, cleanings, fluoride, etc. These are preventative. These are procedures, but not treatment. An exam is not treatment.
2. I said that a parent should not be in the room during treatment. Did I say that a parent should never be in the room at any point in time? That a parent shouldn't walk a child to a dental chair? Did I say that I parent shouldn't observe from a distance? It's the presence and specifically known presence of the parent within the small confines of a dental op when the dentist is doing treatment. I never said a parent shouldn't speak with a dentist regarding the treatment. That the parent shouldn't communicate with the dentist about the child's oral health. A dentist is also not a stranger to the child. A dentist should be a friend. If the child is small, then the he or she should see the dentist for other non-treatment reasons prior to the appointment for treatment.
2(a). DENTAL TREATMENT PLANS. I suspect everyone discuses in detail what treatment is, and specific procedures that have to be done prior to the dentist performing ANY procedure? Don't you know how many x-rays are going to be taken? What fluoride, if any, is to be used? Don't you know if the dentist will look in the child's mouth? Wouldn't you ask or know exactly what filling, or cap, or surgical procedures is going to be done and on exactly what tooth? If you do not then that is where a parenting is failing. Don't you know what kind of anesthesia would be used, if any? How much or for how long? Don't discuss the different options? These have nothing to do with being present at the child's side during the actual undergoing of treatment.
2(b). OBSERVATION. I can only speak of my prior offices, and that of my colleagues. However, the door to which the child is behind. The door to the treatment room, has a significant size glass window. The parent is welcome at any point in time to look through the glass window and check how their child is doing. If they are crying, upset, confused. Also you can double check to make sure your child is being treated the way you deem necessary.
3. An assumption I made is that parents would be responsible enough to take their children to respectful dental offices, and be seen by a respectable dentist. I didn't realize people would allow their children to be seen at big clinics, non-doctor own practices ... etc.
4. Many parents on here are telling "their" stories. That is completely fine. I have heard worse, much worse, than anyone has shared. I am also under the impression that most women are at least 20 years old. Which means you are telling a dental story from 10-15 years ago. A LOT has changed in the profession since that time. Science has changed in the profession since that time. That specifically references a lot of the stories about not being numb. That didn't necessarily happen to you because your dentist was awful. Rather, anesthesia wasn't the same 10-15 years ago. The reaction of anesthesia was dramatically different. Guidelines of standard of care, dental practice, and professional relations have changed. Dentist are now can have their license revoked by the dental board. Dentist can face legal consequences of their actions. This has changed the dentist in the and the over all field of dental medicine.
5. There are several procedures that have been up such as "papoosing" a child. Again, the papoose board is something dentist use to restrain a child. However, it is a dramatic option, and other restraints, which are much more minimal can be an option. Also, dentists do not want to restrain children. Typically it's an option for the parent if they want to proceed with dental treatment and not have their child under full sedation in a hospital. It's a weighing of risk factors.
6. Many women spoke children that have impairments or special needs. Maybe I should have put a disclaimer on my statement. However, I wasn't speaking of children they may need extra care. If you do have a child that is within the impairment guidelines, (which is very relaxed and different than definition of "special needs"), I would suggest seeing a dentist that treats specifically those children. They have extra education to properly give your child the best care.
Yes, I realize there are many grammar and spelling errors. However, I just typed this up 5 minutes before I go into a meeting and don't have the time to back through to correct them all. Just deal.