Mom Confessions
Am i the only one who thinks that is kind of going to far? Is everyone brain dead here or lying or what? I just read a post about a women who got her 12 yr old son a porn mag and another one about a mom getting her 15 yr old dd a vibrator. I mean yeah i am well aware my kids are going to grow up and have sex and watch porn and do all kinds of things i don't want to think about right now but i don't think getting a porn magazine for my 12-13 yr old son is a positve thing to post about on here. Yeah lets get him addcited to porn REALLY young! Yeah yeah i know not everyone gets addicted to porn and it can be healthy but really a 12 year old? Am i alone here on thinking this is a tad overboard?
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the things your kids will see on the internet, which are free, and unregulated and uncensored are far worse than a copy of hustler.
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I wonder will they also buy them drugs,alcohol,hookers,etc. Yes,it's overboard,and I am convinced that quite a few moms on this site are just plain nuts.Sure,I'm all for 'you raise your kids your way,I'll raise my kids my way',but some things are just too much.
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You know.. my SO admitted that he touched himself thinking about a young hot teacher. When he was 12. His fantasy? Her taking her shirt off. Wearing just a bra. It went no futher because at 12 that was hot enough. Why sexualize them younger than they need to be?
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I'm sorry, but exactly how easy is it for you to get yourself off? I couldn't even have an orgasm until I bought my first vibrator. :\ Frankly if I'd had one earlier than I did (bought it at 21) I wouldn't have even bothered with sex. For some people, yeah, it's either battery-operated toys or carpal tunnel, lmao.
Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:
Of course we are sexual beings. I'm on my way to becoming a psychologist-- I know this. But just because we are sexual beings and teens' hormones are in overdrive does NOT mean they need to have sex. They need to learn a bit of restraint and masturbate instead.
And masturbation, especially the innocent masturbation of virgin children, does NOT require pornography or battery operated gadgets.Quoting Anonymous:
The thing is at that age kids are horny because there hormones are in overdrive. It's a natural thing to do at that age. We are sexual beings like it or not.
Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:
I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids.
Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.
So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.
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At 15 or 16, damn straight I'd let my daughter have a vibrator. I most likely wouldn't buy it FOR her, as she'll be doing chores for allowance by that age and she can buy it herself.
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I agree. I wouldn't buy my children something like that. Ever. -
It's not easy. But if one is motivated... lol.
Seriously though, the reason so many people, women especially, have such a hard time enjoying themselves is because we have gotten used to a quick reaction to a toy. A woman who has taken the time to learn her body CAN achieve orgasm without a vibrator.
Which is beside the point, anyways. Teens can achieve plenty of stress relief and tension release from the act of masturbation, even without reaching orgasm. Though many people debate that it's easier for a teen to reach orgasm than an adult, due to the increased hormones.Quoting Anonymous:
I'm sorry, but exactly how easy is it for you to get yourself off? I couldn't even have an orgasm until I bought my first vibrator. :\ Frankly if I'd had one earlier than I did (bought it at 21) I wouldn't have even bothered with sex. For some people, yeah, it's either battery-operated toys or carpal tunnel, lmao.
Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:
Of course we are sexual beings. I'm on my way to becoming a psychologist-- I know this. But just because we are sexual beings and teens' hormones are in overdrive does NOT mean they need to have sex. They need to learn a bit of restraint and masturbate instead.
And masturbation, especially the innocent masturbation of virgin children, does NOT require pornography or battery operated gadgets.Quoting Anonymous:
The thing is at that age kids are horny because there hormones are in overdrive. It's a natural thing to do at that age. We are sexual beings like it or not.
Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:
I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids.
Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.
So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.
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I wouldn't buy my son a porn magazine but masturbating is normal. I would rather my daughter use a vibrator at 15 than a dick that can get her pregnant. Also, I don't think kids should date at 15. They need to focus on school. -
Quoting philly_mom:
If you had taken the time to read the woman's post about buying her daughter a vibrator, you would have grasped that it was actually a very informed and responsible decision on the mother's part. I hope to be that open and honest with my daughter (should I ever have one... I only have a son) some day.
As for the porn magazine for a 12 year old... that's going a bit far and is rather trashy, in my opinion. A 12 year old shouldn't be sexually active, period, and if he is, I don't think the parents should encourage it.
I did read entire post and i have to agree with alot of what she did, i am not living under a rock, like i said before i know my kids will someday have sex and it is great to educate them and get them protection. I just said in my opinion buying a 14,15,16 yr old a vibrator is just too far! This is not just about her post, i see this stuff talked about on other sites and from people all over. It seems like everything is pushed just a little too far these days in my opinion.
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How long have you been on cafemom?