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Buying a porn mag for your son? Buying a vibrator for your DD?
by Anonymous
November 18, 2012 at 11:55 PM

Am i the only one who thinks that is kind of going to far? Is everyone brain dead here or lying or what? I just read a post about a women who got her 12 yr old son a porn mag and another one about a mom getting her 15 yr old dd a vibrator. I mean yeah i am well aware my kids are going to grow up and have sex and watch porn and do all kinds of things i don't want to think about right now but i don't think getting a porn magazine for my 12-13 yr old son is a positve thing to post about on here. Yeah lets get him addcited to porn REALLY young! Yeah yeah i know not everyone gets addicted to porn and it can be healthy but really a 12 year old? Am i alone here on thinking this is a tad overboard?

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  • Anonymous 11
    by Anonymous 11
    November 19, 2012 at 9:07 AM

    I agree.  I think it is disgusting. I was raised to wait until marriage to have sex and I did wait and I'm so glad I did.  I will teach my kids the same.  Sadly purity before marriage is now becoming obsolete.

  • funlovinlady
    November 19, 2012 at 9:08 AM

    I would do both, not at 12 but older sure. I'd rather my kids have a good spank session in their room to relieve sexual tension then be out shoving their dicks in anything that walks.

  • Anonymous 12
    by Anonymous 12
    November 19, 2012 at 9:09 AM

    I don't know they can find porn online and it isn't like you have to be honest about your age on those free porn sites. My grandma bought me my first vibrator when I was 16. My parents were very uptight about sex and anything related to sex. They NEVER had the sex talk with me and they put me in a very strict private school that didn't teach any type of sex-ed other than to just not have sex before marriage. When I got my vibrator I didn't just say, hey now I have this and have been able to keep it from my parents so let me start having a lot of meaningless sex. I didn't have sex for the first time until I was ready and then I was 21 and in a serious relationship that I had been in for 7 years. That relationship didn't work and I still didn't just go out and have a lot of sex. I guess my point is that a teen using a vibrator isn't the end of the world and doesn't make it where sex is meaningless.

    Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

    I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

    Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

    So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  


  • Jessica_Esqueda
    November 19, 2012 at 10:44 AM

    There are certainly exceptions to every rule :) I just can't imagine buying a teenager a vibrator to make it easier. Eek! 

    Quoting Anonymous:

    While I entirely agree that's true, I still feel I'm one of the few who just can't be helped without... I've spent countless hours getting to know my body and what feels good and what doesn't, reading up on the anatomy, talked to sex educators, even tryied new techniques and positions every time so I don't get stuck in a "rut" and my body becomes used to just masturbating one particular way, and I STILL have so much trouble getting there, even with toys. Vibrators cut my average time from almost two hours down to about forty-five minutes. Without one, I can achieve a slight peak, and it does feel good, but it's not anything near an orgasm, and requires both hands to do so (clitoral and vaginal stimulation combined).

    Lmao I'm sorry, that's probably way tmi and completely off topic.

    But yes, as far as teens go, I completely agree. The stress relief alone can take the edge off and that's fine. :)

    Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

    It's not easy. But if one is motivated... lol. 

    Seriously though, the reason so many people, women especially, have such a hard time enjoying themselves is because we have gotten used to a quick reaction to a toy. A woman who has taken the time to learn her body CAN achieve orgasm without a vibrator. 

    Which is beside the point, anyways. Teens can achieve plenty of stress relief and tension release from the act of masturbation, even without reaching orgasm. Though many people debate that it's easier for a teen to reach orgasm than an adult, due to the increased hormones.  

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I'm sorry, but exactly how easy is it for you to get yourself off? I couldn't even have an orgasm until I bought my first vibrator. :\ Frankly if I'd had one earlier than I did (bought it at 21) I wouldn't have even bothered with sex. For some people, yeah, it's either battery-operated toys or carpal tunnel, lmao.

    Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

    Of course we are sexual beings. I'm on my way to becoming a psychologist-- I know this. But just because we are sexual beings and teens' hormones are in overdrive does NOT mean they need to have sex. They need to learn a bit of restraint and masturbate instead. 

    And masturbation, especially the innocent masturbation of virgin children, does NOT require pornography or battery operated gadgets.  

    Quoting Anonymous:

    The thing is at that age kids are horny because there hormones are in overdrive. It's a natural thing to do at that age. We are sexual beings like it or not.


    Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

    I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

    Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

    So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  







  • Jessica_Esqueda
    November 19, 2012 at 10:46 AM

    I agree to an extent. The other issue for me is that, where I live, it is NOT legal for  child under 18 to buy a toy- even in a novelty shop. 

    Quoting thetrollcat:

    My point is I wouldnt discourage my teen from buying one, Im not buying the damn thing. If she really wants a dildo she can buy one herself. Im just saying a dildo is legal and really for sanity reasons safer for a girl. Porn for a boy has no real purpose compared to a girl having a dildo.

    Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

    If you find that she is already masturbating with objects, then buying her a safe object is less offensive. I just don't understand the attitude of "you're horny? Here's a dildo!". What is that teaching our kids about sexual morality? 

    Quoting thetrollcat:

    Porn magazine I agree with some that say that is not appropriate, I agree that is not an actual sex tool. Boys are perfectly content using their hands.

    Girls, well in the other post I did catch one poster stating girls getting infectiosn from using objects. I would much rather provide a safe toy for my daughter verses wondering what she is shoving up there.... Thats a safty issue, porn magazine is not.

    I do think its something I wil lconsider and talk to my 17 year old about, being safe if she masterbates with object. I never thought about that....




  • Jessica_Esqueda
    November 19, 2012 at 10:48 AM

    No, it isn't the end of the world. And it's great that you kept your virginity for so long. But the fact of the matter is, more teens are having sex than those who are remaining abstinent. And I do think a lot of that has to do with how we are raising our kids. 

    I don't think vibrators make sluts. I do think they can encourage inappropriate behavior in the wrong setting though. 

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I don't know they can find porn online and it isn't like you have to be honest about your age on those free porn sites. My grandma bought me my first vibrator when I was 16. My parents were very uptight about sex and anything related to sex. They NEVER had the sex talk with me and they put me in a very strict private school that didn't teach any type of sex-ed other than to just not have sex before marriage. When I got my vibrator I didn't just say, hey now I have this and have been able to keep it from my parents so let me start having a lot of meaningless sex. I didn't have sex for the first time until I was ready and then I was 21 and in a serious relationship that I had been in for 7 years. That relationship didn't work and I still didn't just go out and have a lot of sex. I guess my point is that a teen using a vibrator isn't the end of the world and doesn't make it where sex is meaningless.

    Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

    I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

    Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

    So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  



  • GreenEyes8707
    November 19, 2012 at 8:16 PM

    Masterbating, is normal. But, buying a 12 year old a mag is way to for and a 15 year old sex toys. THAT IS BAD! 

  • Anonymous 13
    by Anonymous 13
    November 19, 2012 at 8:17 PM
    Yes people are going overboard!
  • Lindsey1126
    November 19, 2012 at 8:22 PM
    Wtf! Why would someone buy that for their child! That is horrible
  • momto2boys973
    November 19, 2012 at 8:25 PM
    I agree with you. IMHO, it's another sign of the disturbing trend of being your child's friend before being a parent.
    Personally, I think the message sent to kids is that since we can't control what they do, it's better if we just join in and give our blessings rather than becoming the "bad guy" for not allowing something. It's a dangerous message to send to your kids.
    But to each his own. Not my kids, not my problem.

    Sharon

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