Mom Confessions
We have always had a really open relationship about sex and her boyfriends. Shes been dating her current for abut a year and half, he is a a junior. Last week she went on a group date to our county fair. A couple days later she ask if she could be placed on the pill. I told her sure. I ask her why and if she was ready. She told told me at the fair she and her boyfriend "hooked up" (oral sex). She said after that it was kinda awkward and both of them felt weird about it. She said she doesn't think either of them are really ready to go there yet but that when they are together it's just kinda hard to stop (hence the want for pills).
I told her that they both are probably not ready for sex but more sexually frustrated than anything else. I told her thats completely normal and that sex before both of them are really ready isnt the answer. She knows sex is a very emotional act, especially your first, and can't be taken back. I also told her there are things they an do as a couple and be herself to releave some of the tension. I talkedher about heavy petting and mutual masturbation and sex toys (for her own personal use). We talked about setting limits and protecttion a little more indepthly than before.
e looked up sex toys on amazon and I helped her pick something out small and talked to her about proper care for it when it get's here. We also discussed putting her on depo. We went and bought condoms for her room and purse, dental dams, spermacide from amazon.
I'm proud of her for being open with me. I would rather know and help than not know and pop up with a grand child or her being regretful for doing something she was not prepared for. I hope that when she really is ready she will come to me again.
How would you have handled it?
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better then the real deal atleast she wont get pregnant -
Oh yea, DH agrees. Thank god!
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Good for you. I honestly think you did the right thing. I hope my relationship with my dd is that open and honest when she gets older.
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Depo will make her miserable! Trust me. -
That's good she's super open about it. I also think its good you helped her though kind of super awkward. -
Good for you! -
Good! You made a great choice! -
I would and will buy my child a masturbatory aid when they ask/if they ask, when they are mature enough to use it appropriately.
I realize some may think its sick, but I'd rather them get their rock off without teen pregnancy.
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This.
Quoting Anonymous:
Good for you. I honestly think you did the right thing. I hope my relationship with my dd is that open and honest when she gets older.
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We bought our 12 year old son a Hustler and our 22 year old DD a toy all in the same day! We also got the son these rags at pride that said Cum rag on it.