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I think my bf of 8 years just broke up with me... *UPDATE*
by Anonymous
November 18, 2012 at 8:50 AM

by text. It's somewhere around 8:30am and I woke up noticing that he wasn't in bed. I text him saying "where are you?" He texts back with " Things just aren't working out between us, so I decided to move to Atlantic City last night." So, because I had just woke up and not fully awake, ny reply was "what?" He then texts back, "I just decided to leave. To many bills, too much stress, and the kids were driving me crazy." It was at that point when I realized that in all our eight years together, he has never NOT come home and that he just might be telling the truth. I sat and thought for a minute and started to get highly annoyed and disgusted. He has the audacity to say how stressed out and tired he is. All he does is work a 9-5 job. He comes home and relaxes. Me? I got to school FULL TIME, run our business FULL TIME, run the household FULL TIME, and take care of the kids FULL TIME. I am exhausted! So after realizing that he no reason to say how tired he is, I text him back "Enjoy. I hope you find what you're looking for." If he did go, I'm not going to sit here and whine and cry, begging him to come back. Nope. I'm going to wish him well. Does it hurt that he broke up with me and this way? Honestly, no. He was an extra thing that I had to deal with FULL TIME so he just actually cleared up my plate a little.

Oh, for those of you wondering why he picked AC, he has family that lives out there. We are about 3 hours from AC.


11/19/12

Sorry I haven't been on a lot, just had a lot on my mind for the last 24 hours. So I spoke to him this morning. He said that he didn't really go to AC. That he was at a friends house and just needed to "get away". Said that he was tired and had a lot going on. I told him that unless he was secretly sick with cancer, that whatever he had going on, I am going through it too. That for him to just up and leave without so much as a word and then to text me was childish and irresponsible. I asked him why he felt the need to tell me that he was basically gone and never coming back? Why he just couldn't have said " I need some me time". I would have even understood that. He said that he doesn't want to leave and that he apologizes for doing that to me. That he loves me and his family and that he wants to make things right and that he still wants to get married (he was in the process of getting a ring and proposing). I told him to stay at his friends house for a while, that I needed some "me time". I'm hurt that he would do something like this. I'm not saying that we had the world's best relationship. but at least one good enought to where this sort of thing wouldn't happen. If I allow him back, who's to say that he won't do it again, and be for real next time? I do love him and I know he loves us, but he really needs to get his act together. This is something that I need to sit and really think about. *sigh* He is going to come over after work so we can talk. I will update more then. 

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  • Anonymous 26
    by Anonymous 26
    November 18, 2012 at 3:10 PM
    Lol ya cuz AC is the place to be right now..........

    *hugs stay strong mama. You can do it without him.
  • .Diddles.
    November 18, 2012 at 3:12 PM

    Wow, I'm sorry you are doing all of that on your own. Sounds like you were better off anyway. Keep your head up, things will get better!!

  • KeimUNCmomof3
    November 18, 2012 at 3:12 PM

    What a coward though, to leave you like that, the way he did.  So sorry you're going through this.  Hope it works out the best for you.

  • Anonymous 27
    by Anonymous 27
    November 18, 2012 at 3:22 PM

     

    Quoting m0m23b0ys458:

    I disagree.With that many things going on,there is no way that anything she is doing is getting her full attention.So,I don't see where she is doing anything "full time".

    Quoting WithHope:

    I beg to differ. If she takes the kids to school/day care and picks them up then she is still very much their "full time" care taker. I have nothing against Sahm mon's but this is a huge misconception many have. I work, go to school and yes proudly say I take care of my kiddos "full time."


    Quoting babyblue415:

     i am not here to bash i just wanted to clear a few things up. first. i'm so sorry he did u wrong. second ... how are you working and going to school and taking care of kids full time? that doesn't work unless you bring your kids to work and to school with you. i dont know there ages but if they are not in school yet then u aren't


     takin care of them full time. ... full time is twenty four seven three sixty five .... other than that. its not full time.


     

     OMFG who the hell gives a flying F*ck. Did you miss the whole point of her post? If she has no help from him then she is doing it all, even if her kids go to daycare.

  • bcauseimthemom
    November 18, 2012 at 3:23 PM

    Get a CO in place so that child support is being paid.

  • Byrd15
    by Byrd15
    November 18, 2012 at 3:25 PM

    Hey, one less mouth to feed momma! Good for you! <3

  • crazy_mommyof2
    November 18, 2012 at 3:34 PM

    I admire your attitude :) Good luck, no need to that kind of negativity in your life. 

  • Saerise
    by Saerise
    November 18, 2012 at 3:53 PM

    If the kids are his, get on that child support filing.

  • Anonymous 28
    by Anonymous 28
    November 18, 2012 at 3:57 PM
    If what you say is true then a 32+ hour a week job wouldn't be considered full time. Get off your sahm high horse and give the woman a break.

    Being a full time part time sahm whatever doesn't make you a good mom. BEING a good mom makes you a good mom.

    Some of you are so rude.


    Quoting Anonymous:

     


    Quoting m0m23b0ys458:


    I disagree.With that many things going on,there is no way that anything she is doing is getting her full attention.So,I don't see where she is doing anything "full time".


    Quoting WithHope:

    I beg to differ. If she takes the kids to school/day care and picks them up then she is still very much their "full time" care taker. I have nothing against Sahm mon's but this is a huge misconception many have. I work, go to school and yes proudly say I take care of my kiddos "full time."



    Quoting babyblue415:


     i am not here to bash i just wanted to clear a few things up. first. i'm so sorry he did u wrong. second ... how are you working and going to school and taking care of kids full time? that doesn't work unless you bring your kids to work and to school with you. i dont know there ages but if they are not in school yet then u aren't



     takin care of them full time. ... full time is twenty four seven three sixty five .... other than that. its not full time.



     


     OMFG who the hell gives a flying F*ck. Did you miss the whole point of her post? If she has no help from him then she is doing it all, even if her kids go to daycare.


  • Celtic_Dragon
    November 18, 2012 at 4:00 PM

    Let him leave. Deadbeat. You've got your head on your shoulders. Keep those texts, take him to court, make sure you keep full physical and legal custody. Sue him for child support. And find yourself a man who is going to help you run your business and be responsible and respectable to you. See this as a good way to change your life and find a real man.

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