How often do you go out and do something just you? Lunch with friends, movies, a walk, anything, just YOU time? How often does DH go out with friends or do something he wants?
I haven't gone out in over six months. my life consists of cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, running them here and there, doing whatever DH needs me to do. I don't have many friends, and the two friends I do have are both single moms with multiple children, and they can never find a sitter, nor afford to do anything. Dh has a few friends, and he's often gone out. He's gone to the movies and had game nights several times in the last couple of months. I'm always home with the kids. My parents are elderly and not in great health, so they can't watch them like they used to, and his mom works constantly. I don't like asking friends to babysit, although I do babysit their kids sometimes.
My BFF asked if I wanted to go see Twilight with her tonight, and while I hate the series and movies, I'm going to go because I'm just run down and exhausted, and just need a break away.. My 20 yo sister is home from college for break, so she's going to babysit them...I'm just hoping BFF's dad can watch her kids, or else we can't go.
My husband doesn't really going places. He prefers to stay home. I love going places. So I usually go places with my boys and meet up with friends during the week. I usually go about 2-3 times per week. I also will go to the gym or run errands while my kids are in class twice per week.
At least once a week. Last night my mother, my two sisters and I went out for a drink to see a friends new restaurant. This week I have a breakfast date with a friend, etc. I get plenty of time for me. My husband is a volunteer firefighter and that is where his, "me", time comes in.
me--maybe once a month when DH's cousins get together for girls' night.
DH--once or twice a week to a friend's house, or out to the bar with them to watch a football game.
He wishes he could go out more (all of his friends are single and hang out all the time), but stays home to be a good family man. I am quite content with not going out much. I know I can anytime I want.