Mom Confessions
Has yet to have a job beyond 6 months, keeps getting fired for lack of performance in job, no drivers license, always broken, but decided to join a band even though he has no music training and this band is not paying it's members. He now turns job offers down because it conflicts with practice. I have offered to pay him one night a week to watch kids while I go to a church meeting , he said no because of band practice.
He dates married women. goes to bars.
He is a 36 year old single guy on welfare.
He just called me begging me for money or food, because he is broke.
What advice should I give him?
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Stop enabling him but at this point he's 36 so hope is dwindling... -
I think a lot of people on here will tell you that its none of your business, but I think part of loving people is not just sitting by and watching them self destruct. I would just sit him down and have an honest heart to heart about how he's old enough to take care of himself and he shouldn't be calling you up for money/food. I assume you work hard, and he should be doing the same. If you give him food/money you are not helping him.
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I agree, I never give him money unless he babysits, I was just going to give him some leftovers, and be done
Quoting owl0210:
Stop enabling him but at this point he's 36 so hope is dwindling...
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I agree, but I feel I should give him advice about how to fix his life
Quoting brittany208:
I think a lot of people on here will tell you that its none of your business, but I think part of loving people is not just sitting by and watching them self destruct. I would just sit him down and have an honest heart to heart about how he's old enough to take care of himself and he shouldn't be calling you up for money/food. I assume you work hard, and he should be doing the same. If you give him food/money you are not helping him.
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I imagine by his age, he KNOWS how to fix his life. it doesnt take a rocket scientist to know that adults should have jobs, not be going to the bar all the time, and not be messing around with married people.
Quoting Heatherahh:
I agree, but I feel I should give him advice about how to fix his life
Quoting brittany208:
I think a lot of people on here will tell you that its none of your business, but I think part of loving people is not just sitting by and watching them self destruct. I would just sit him down and have an honest heart to heart about how he's old enough to take care of himself and he shouldn't be calling you up for money/food. I assume you work hard, and he should be doing the same. If you give him food/money you are not helping him.
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Is your brother going through clinical depression? Has e been looked at by a doctor?
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You'd at least really hope he knew
Quoting brittany208:
I imagine by his age, he KNOWS how to fix his life. it doesnt take a rocket scientist to know that adults should have jobs, not be going to the bar all the time, and not be messing around with married people.
Quoting Heatherahh:
I agree, but I feel I should give him advice about how to fix his life
Quoting brittany208:
I think a lot of people on here will tell you that its none of your business, but I think part of loving people is not just sitting by and watching them self destruct. I would just sit him down and have an honest heart to heart about how he's old enough to take care of himself and he shouldn't be calling you up for money/food. I assume you work hard, and he should be doing the same. If you give him food/money you are not helping him.
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I don't know for sure, but very possible
Quoting CoolRelax:
Is your brother going through clinical depression? Has e been looked at by a doctor?