Mom Confessions
I was asked today to please have my son evaluated for his behavior by his babysitter. His preschool teacher has requested. His father (we aren't together anymore) has requested. His kindergarden screening has said he needs to be seen. I don't want to! Yes, he is difficult. He can't stay on task. He is 5 and is always surprised when a consequence happens even though I am very consistant. I do what I say I will do. I set the timer tonight for 20 minutes to clean his room and told him I will take any not put away. He is running laps in my house and giggling. I know he will be shocked, just like last night, when I take his toys. My closet is full of toys he hasnt earned back. You litterally have to nag or he forgets what was told to him. His teachers say he has no self control and cries when he is told to move to a new task sometimes. His dad says he is hopeless and wont listen. His babysitter says he is wild and spends a lot of time in trouble. I think they just dont understand him and he will learn if we just keep at our consistancy. I have the number for the behavior therapist... I dont want to call! UPDATE: I called them. They are sending me the release forms and said that they can work on my schedule. I struggled all night with this. Thank you for pushing me.
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Just fucking call! It will make things better for everyone. He probably doesn't like living the way he does. I know I didn't when I was younger. I have add. -
As a parent, you are your childs only advocate. Don't make him suffer until you finally "think" he needs it.
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That's how my son is. He'll be 4 in december. If he's still like that at 5, I'll be calling a behavioral therapist.
It seems as though you may want to call. I know you're sick of hearing it. Are you possibly afraid of something being "different" about him? I know I am.. but I would also feel better knowing for sure. I would imagine you may feel better, too. -
my friend is going wthrough this with her son and I advised her to take him to the doc and listen to what he/she has to say. If he has a problem then getting punished for things he doesnt understand/has not control of isnt right either.
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Grow up and quit whining. Do what is best for your child and have an evaluation done for him.
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Just call. If there's nothing wrong, they can shut it. If there is something wrong then you can deal with it from there. -
It must be very frustrating for him to constantly be getting in trouble and angering others. It must be very scary for you. Poor little guy, poor mama! :(
Get the eval. Get the help he might need. Get the support you might need. It will get better! (I'm a special Ed evaluator and teacher and I swear, kids who have difficulty with impulsive behavior are so often much happier when they are given proper supports.)
You sound like a mom who can follow through on programs. You will partner well with a specialist. You and your son will be successful!!
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Sweetie, denial is dangerous. You know how easy it is to get a number. The faster you get I diagnosis, the faster you can get him and yourself help. Early intervention is key to a happier kid with friends and a better future for him. Make the call. ask a pediatician, google your area, ask the school guidance, but make the call. this isn't the end of the world...it the start of a brighter future...for your son. -
It seems like you're trying to make a point about parents who don't medicate despite the signs in front of them. Was there a post earlier?
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By not calling, you are will be failing your child.
Are you okay with failing him?
This isn't about what you want, it's about what is in his best interest.