I can't help but wonder, with all the recent news of kidnappings, how these guys got these kids. The missing girl in Colorado is very close to home being but a couple hours away. The same day a girl went missing from Cody, WY. She was later found and it's come out that she got in a strangers car because he asked her to help him find his dog.
Growing up we had a code word. We didn't get in the car with anyone who did not know the code word. We did not help people find lost dogs. We gave directions from the side walk. We knew to run screaming if someone approached us. My siblings and I would never have been that girl taken and raped in Cody, WY. My children will not be either. I will teach them as I was taught.
We've had that talk at my house. We have a code word, and only my kids, myself, and dh know it. Not even the rest of my family. They also know, including my 5 yo, not to do get into ANYONE's car unless they know beforehand they are supposed to or the person knows that secret word.
They have also been taught if someone ever tried to grab them to kick, scream, scratch, bite, do everything they can to get away from them and run to the nearest house for help. My 5 yo likes to remind me I said to kick them in the privates if that happens.
That said, even with teaching them all to do it, you never know what they might do in the situation. She could have been taught not to and still did it, kids do things like that. That's why it's so easy for people to still be doing what works!
I don't know what schools teach, but we will be teaching DD about stranger danger but also about telling us if a person ever violates her personally, no matter what the perpetrator says to them.
As an aside, I thought your sn was "Furbymama"
October 10, 2012 at 3:51 PM
They teach it in schools. I for one don't teach stranger danger and I'm not looking forward to them learning it in school. I think stranger danger is actually detrimental and weakens the senses to be able to protect oneself against actual danger by making all strangers the culprit. I think the message is confusing at best and not well thought out.
Of course someone could have chased me down, knocked me over the head and taken me. What is the percentage of that though? If I were to be taken I'd put up as much struggle and make as much noise as possible. Predators usually go for the easy kill.
Even people who know and are taught this can still be kidnapped. Look at the amount of missing women, or men even. They knew but they were still abducted. If a bad guy wants to get someone bad enough they will. You don't know what could happen to your children, don't be so sure it couldn't happen to you.