Opinions please: She wants to make my wedding her coming out party

[HIJKLM]

DF's half sister just began her first lesbian relationship about a week ago. She texted DF today to ask of she could bring a guest to our wedding. DF said "sure, who's the new fling?" her reply "well let's just say it's between two ladies." they text back and forth, he asks if her parents know. DF's father and his wife are devout mormons, this isn't gonna go over well... She says "nope but they'll find out at the wedding though lol"

Here's my thing... I don't care if she is a lesbian but my wedding day is not the time to tell her parents who are not going to take it well. Any other day I'd stand up to her parents and have her back but not on my wedding day...

I say she needs to come out before the wedding or not bring her GF. DF says its their business and we should stay out of it. I foresee drama...

WWYD? Tell her to come out before or not bring the GF OR just let it play out because it's their business?

[HIJKLM]

I doubt that will happen... They're not known for biting their tongues and she pushes her parents intentionally... Probably has to do with being their only bio kid

Quoting kde216:

It is your day. You're the queen bee. If drama starts you tell whoever is causing it to get the f*ck out! On a more positive note, if they all have enough respect then they should all keep their mouths closed till your day is over. Good luck :)

[hautemama83]

I agree with you on this. If she wants to bring her girlfriend fine, but she needs to tell her parents before hand. Even if it doesn't cause drama, its still going to be the day her parents remember their daughter coming out. Opposed to just remembering your wedding day.

[JenB1983]

That's really crappy of her. Hopefully she pulls her head out of her ass and realizes that YOUR wedding isn't the time to cause family drama.

[mommy_me]

 No

[paknari]

I agree with you. It is rude to ruin your day. You don't make someone's wedding day about you for any reason.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell her that you love and support her no matter what and would be thrilled for both of them to be at your wedding, but she will need to inform her parents prior to the wedding day. It's your day and no one should take that focus away from you and your DF.

[HIJKLM]

What's more, she just got out of a 3year relationship last week and switched teams. I'm wondering if this isn't some kind of curiosity rebound. After less than a week she's inviting this person to family gatherings... Part of me thinks her inner spoiled brat is coming out and she wants her parents attention back on her.

Quoting hip2it:

Your wedding should be about you. All eyes should be on you, not the guest that suddenly wants to come out of the closet.

[tarakay0417]

your wedding is not a place for that. IMO.

[SB2217]

I agree with you. I would just tell DH to tell her that, either she comes out before, don't bring the GF or just don't come, but come to your wedding to cause drama and take the focus away from a happy celebration is just wrong.

[2love]

Uh no ma'am! Not on the wedding day! Any other day would be fine.